wearing headphones gives way to the assumption that the person is listening to something other than their surroundings; their talking is probably directed at someone on the phone.
hearing aids can be used as headphones as well, but generally aren't.
You’re being an asshole and you need to stop this behavior. Wait until it’s clear someone can’t hear you before making this gesture.
i don't "make them" but i don't feel accepted or heard until they do and this will limit my interactions with them (for better or worse).
> You’re being an asshole and you need to stop this behavior. Wait until it’s clear someone can’t hear you before making this gesture.
seems like you got some things backwards and this is one of them.