I feel like, while theoretically possible, it's pretty much all downsides and no upsides. At least for communication purposes.
However, your comment reminded me of an interesting PBS Space Time episode discussing the possibility of finding alien civilizations via the gravitational waves produced by their massive ships accelerating to near light speed.
https://www.pbs.org/video/could-ligo-find-massive-alien-spac...
I think you've hit the crux the question. If there are only a few civilizations, I agree, that'd be an awe-inspiring deterrent.
However, if you don't know how many civilizations there are that are similarly advanced to your own, sending out a big "we're here!" message may be quite risky.
In terms of game theory, it's a sequential and incomplete information game. I think the smartest decision is to remain quiet.
To me it feels most likely that our signals just have not had enough time to get to them.
The advanced alien civilization may indeed be interested in us, but still not consider it their best interest to act as soon as possible.
If they decide to act, other civilizations (perhaps even more advanced) may decide to intervene in some way. A civilization that decides to reach out (in a friendly or hostile way) also reveals their own location in the universe.
The most risk adverse choice is probably to remain quiet, especially if they are millennia ahead of us technologically.
Because the amplitude is inversely proportional to the distance, but intensity is inversely proportional to the distance squared, this could allow for communication over longer distances.
Gravitational waves might be the best way to communicate between our world and the dark matter world/dark sector?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hidden_sector
...or maybe there is a lower noise floor for gravitational wave comms?
>The amount of energy required per bit transmitted would be astounding.
Has someone calculated this out? Or is it more of a "well we need an exceedingly sensitive instrument to detect some of the most energetic events in the universe from half-a galaxy away" gut-feel? Any reason something like a phased-array for directional comms / beam forming wouldn't work with gravitational waves?
I was thinking about the energy required to transmit the gravitational waves, not receive them. Being able to move objects massive enough (stellar mass or more) to create detectable gravitational waves in a quick and precise enough manner to allow for communication would require mind-boggling amounts of energy.
I suppose the ratio of Coulomb's constant to the gravitation constant (or something similar) govern the relative difficulty in using gravitational vs. EM? But that's not obvious to me that it would make gravitational wave communications inefficient in absolute terms.
I definitely do not know enough about the topic to approach answering your questions, but I'd certainly be interested in knowing the answers. I really hadn't thought about it in that context.
Would "obstacles" be circumvented? I would think interference would still be possible but instead of line of sight it would be large gravitational distortions (black hole, stars).
Humility clause: I don't know what I'm talking about.
Somehow moving planet sized objects around to create gravity waves?
Of course, the cop-out "using their advanced tech we don't have a clue about" answer could actually be correct.
The problem is modulating the signal. The only way is to move large masses quickly.