That’s the part I didn’t understand either. You’re not. You can’t. Because that’s how the city was built. But if the city was built differently a married couple of professionals could get to work without a car.

There’s more to it than this. Check out the Not Just Bikes YouTube channel for the whole story

And it can be argued people living very spread out is a symptom of something else.

Oh I fully agree. Car dependency was easier to type than all the stuff you said which is a fuller analysis.

Well the advent of (affordable) cars made the whole spread out urban design possible in the first place.