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I’m already dating someone long-term, so the point is somewhat moot. But, I wasn’t saying that they should never date anyone else ever. I was saying they should only be dating one person at a time. Again, referring to the OP - if this is so unreasonable or silly how come everyone thought this way only a decade or so ago?

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Isn’t the old term “going steady” the equivalent of explicitly exclusively dating someone?

I’m not convinced a decade or so ago this was so different, but let’s say it was. If the norm is different now, then it’s unreasonable to expect dates to behave as if it isn’t. I’m not saying it’s unreasonable to ask for what you want, I just think it’s silly to feel disrespected when someone violates an expectation that’s not been communicated.

> if this is so unreasonable or silly how come everyone thought this way only a decade or so ago?

Conventions change, right? Ten years is doesn't seem like much but it's nearly half a generation. A lot can change from one generation to the next. The younger generations seem to be much more liberal when it comes to lifestyle choices, and much more explicit around communication and consent.

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