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>>I distinctly remember having a conversation in like 2018 [...]

20 years ago (a generation[1]) is very different from only 6 years ago. Your anecdote seems to reinforce the author's point.

[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Generation

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But this is not a recent phenomenon - it's a poorly-publicized fact of life that naive young men of each generation keep have been rediscovering for decades, perhaps centuries. Example: I read the autobiography of a certain chemical engineer (the name escapes me, will look it up later) who, while growing up in Southern US in the 1940s, described that he was shocked to discover that it was completely normal for a girl to date multiple boys at the same time.

(Update for anyone still following the thread: the chemist's name was Max Gergel.)

What I’m saying is that paragraph was written as if dishonesty was a problem women had to face from men. It doesn’t explicitly note that men also face it from women (nor does it assert that this is only a female problem). Just pointing out it goes both ways. I’m not trying to say the author is wrong

It’s not considered dishonesty from either party. This has been true for 10 years at minimum with online dating.

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