But you're in Apple's ecosystem, you're supposed to use Apple products, happily.
The obvious fix for that "bug" is to start using Apple Music.
In this particularly case though, I think you're missing the point. Apple takes an opinionated "we are right" approach to design, and it's typically an all-or-nothing thing. If Apple decides to allow choice, then you get choice. If they don't, then you don't. It's one whole, beautiful, integrated system (as they would say). There's a lot of (intentional) friction[1] in place to make keeping a toe in or out very uncomfortable.
[1]: Don't think this needs a citation, but if you disagree take a look at the "buy your mom an iphone" stories and the internal emails about making iMessage work on Android (Apple/Android families and all that)
But also, this comes off a bit like a "if you don't like it, move to another country" type of response. It's not very reasonable, and it's not very helpful for the majority of people.
How does this differ from any other company?
I'm relived to hear that this isn't a problem which goes away if I buy Airpods.
I ended up uninstalling Apple Music. At least they let you do that.
This has been broken since the very first iPhone.
They just need to add a stack of 2 entries to fix this for 99% of usages.
do you remember about when that was?
Now I recommend Plex. I use Prism player on my iPhone and I download my whole library from my MBP host. It's perfect.
(I also have to have downloaded music... thankfully I got that U2 album ages ago, ha.)
I actually bought this 10 minute long silent song on iTunes at the time, so my phone wouldn’t automatically play Weezer’s “Across the Sea” every time I connected my phone to the car: https://music.apple.com/us/album/a-a-a-a-a-very-good-song-si...
The play button defaulting to Apple Music even when another sound source has been used more recently is one of the few things I dislike about iPhones.
At least I could still buy "A a a a a a very good song" in iTunes Music Store still so it won't alphabetically run Anno Mundi (or for my wife whatever is the lexiographically first track of that U2 record they pushed on everyone)
I can't remember ever being annoyed by the "play" button opening Apple Music - the worst it might do is start playing the YouTube video in an open browser tab when I wanted it to play Spotify (it depends on which app i most recently alt-tabbed from), but that's only a minor annoyance.
Am I the weird one? My system rarely starts up because I rarely turn it off; why bother? (`uptime` reports that the last time I restarted the computer was 79 days ago.) And I pretty much always have Spotify or YouTube (the two main places I open in the background, so Macos doesn't need to open a new app to start playing.
What am I doing right?
Either way you can prevent this by selecting "Don't Send" when you first set up your Mac
There is no avoiding it in the first instance (the OS update process), as it is required for updates if you have boot security enabled, and there is no UI to disable APNS.
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Unfortunately that option only disables the display of the currently playing track title, not the entire section labelled "Music".