When I was reading the title and I was wondering if this happened many decades ago when social norms/expectations were very different and gender discrimination was much worse. Turns out this woman is only a few years older than me, and in her time college/career isn't that much different from mine -- except the Mormon factor. The context here matters a lot. (And I imagine even among Mormons, people take it differently and prioritize their career differently -- but no use saying that now.)