Remix has one of the best stars/issue ratios I've ever seen in a large project. They have 27k stars for 228 issues (118 stars/issue). Meanwhile next.js has 121k stars for 2678 issues (45 stars/issue).
Remix also has a robust future flag system to ensure nothing breaks during transitions. https://github.com/remix-run/remix/issues/4598
For larger changes (like the controversial flat routes), they even maintain the old feature so you don't have to upgrade. https://www.npmjs.com/package/@remix-run/v1-route-convention
I don't think the evidence supports your assertion.
You don't have to update your phone and laptop every year, even if you are made to feel so.
With that out of the way, where is the research showing that this is a good indicator of software reliability? Highly starred projects are left unfinished and abandoned all the time. The thread above goes into details about upgrade challenges. So it seems stars are maybe not such a good indicator of reliability. What about using a star to issue ratio? I've personally seen multiple projects with 10k+ stars that hide their bug reports in the discussions tab. Terraform has a much worse ratio, but would you describe it as much less reliable?
Show me the research.
While I'm unaware of research supporting stars/issue, it's a useful rule-of-thumb at the extremes. With React (318), if something isn't working, your code is almost certainly wrong. With Bun (24), if something isn't working, it's likely Bun (sorry, Jarred).
The assertion the Remix creators are "extremely hostile to anything resembling stability" should place Remix at the lowest extreme, but that isn't so.
If you use a metric or rule-of-thumb for evaluating reliability, I'm curious to hear it.
I tend to try and ignore stars, because I've been burned by popular and unpopular projects alike. They also seem to be gamed at times. For an initial evaluation of something I might actually use I look at who the owners are, when the project was last updated, and explore the issue tracker (including closed tickets). That is usually enough to identify projects with major problems. If they pass the initial audit, then the process continues.
Especially next community seems to be full of people who don't seem to know anything about web development complaining because they don't know how cookies work or something...
Remix has 21,375 downloads per week according to npm. Next has 6,562,587.
[1] https://github.com/remix-run/remix/pull/9433 [2] https://www.npmjs.com/package/@remix-run/router
Shopify has had issues adopting Remix because their existing front-end codebases are massive and they couldn't afford to rewrite them to use Remix.
That's actually the whole motivation behind turning Remix into a bundler plugin. With a bundler plugin, you can incrementally migrate parts of your existing application to use the features of Remix without having to rewrite all of it.