As you have pointed out, there are tools and ways to mitigate this, primarily blocking replies from people you dont follow.
But the person first needs to realize they are the pattern.
People don't have to learn to like anything, especially online commentary.
This thread sounds like a bunch of men attempting to invalidate this woman's feelings.
> All that aside, the problem isn’t just “bad comments”, because I’m a grown woman and can take critique. The biggest problem is that a portion of those folks take screenshots and share them with unsavory folks. Not a week goes by that I don’t get some nasty email from someone I blocked on Mastodon. Some of these have been threatening, and it’s gotten to the point where before I toot, I think “will someone threaten to kill me over this?” That’s not fun.
There's a difference between strongly disagreeing with a post, toot, tweet, what-have-you and outright taking things way beyond what could be seen as proper conduct with respect for the human on the other end.
The solution isn't to just accept that under the guise of emotional maturity. It's investing in proper governance and arbitrage, promoting shared values and morals, and providing enough affordances in digital tools that help affirm all of that.
There are 3 options to dealing with this.
1. Never go on the internet.
2. Accept that people will be rude, and develop ways to ignore/deal with it rationally.
3. Complain about it, and expect something to change.
Looks like the author is choosing option 3.
Why are you bringing sex/gender into this? It has nothing to do with it.
It's easier to victimise yourself than to accept the reality that irrespective of what class you belong to, there will be people who will not like you for what you do, say or how you say it and they will voice their opinions. While there are plenty of isms and ists in the world, everyone gets hate online.
Valid criticisms should be taken onboard, garbage hate should be discarded. If you don't have thick skin but still want to have an online presence: just disable comments or have moderators delete all comments you wouldn't like.
It might also be just me, but I fail to understand why anyone uses Twitter or anything similar, these types of platforms promote trashy conversations in my view.