I agree with you, FreeBSD should be judged by its own right against every other operating system out there, including the 100s of GNU/systemd/Linux-distributions, and every obscure operating system out there. How deep you dig depends on you.
My preferences have fallen on a combination of FreeBSD, OpenBSD, Manjaro Linux, with FreeBSD my main operating system.
The main draw backs are
1) poorer wifi support *
2) non-existing bluetooth support
But the main advantages of FreeBSD
1) FreeBSD is a source distribution first, always has been, always will be.
2) The most permissive software licenses are prefered, which I think is really cool
3) By far the best package managers. both ports and pkg are simpler to use than anything I have tried from any other distribution. I know some people swear by Slackware, Gentoo and Arch, but in general their package management do not appeal to me. Plus it always seems like the linux distributions are either source or binary. Sure, you can usually do both(except for the source first distributions) on most linux distributions, it's usually inferior to ports/pkg.
4) first class ZFS support
5) I get to run the same system on my desktop as I do on my production systems which I consider a big advantage.
* https://man.freebsd.org/cgi/man.cgi?query=wifibox
I have resolved the WIFI support by running wifibox, a tiny virtualized Linux vm running on bhyve. It gives me a 20-fold increase in speed! Coincidentally, it’s based on Aline Linux, which the blog post is all about!
When I want to play games, I reboot to Windows or Manjaro, which takes about 60 seconds... Both fairly stable and easy to maintain operating systems. I like MacOS as well, but I don't have any apple computers anymore.