It was actually Hetzner that didn't want to provision my VPS without Photo ID. I blanked out the SSN as our government tells us to do and they balked at that as well. After I showed them my government's website explaining how and why to do that they were OK with it but at that point the relationship was already soured and I started looking for alternatives.

Maybe they changed it now but they were asses about it then. I thought it was a legal requirement, they basically said as much though I don't recall the exact details, it was before the pandemic.

Eventually I just moved to Scaleway in France which is much nicer and cheaper and you can even talk to their support on slack.

PS: I don't do anything nefarious on my servers but I just don't want my ID on file anywhere it's not needed.