Comment by ethbr1 | Hacker News Reader

Comment by ethbr1 | Hacker News Reader

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Good point, in that some of these are not like the others.

Imho, if you're joining a group with a goal of meeting people to possibly have a relationship with, you want a group that:

   - Is a community (people stay in it)
   - Is growing or has turnover
   - Has enough of a connection to make friends

And a particular note that you might not meet people in the group, but... the people you meet in the group might introduce you to other people.

That's the way things used to be done before social/dating apps -- "Hi, have you met ____? I think the two of you have a lot in common..."

And by and large, it worked pretty well. Who better to matchmake than people who actually know both of you?

> That's the way things used to be done before social/dating apps ... And by and large, it worked pretty well. Who better to matchmake than people who actually know both of you?

I feel like some uncomfortably large fraction of consumer-focused tech is like that: take something that worked, and replace it by some new-shiny junk-food like thing that's actually worse in all important ways.

I'd agree. The big differentiator being your own personality and your own outlook / expectations of life and others.

There are plenty people around looking to have a date, and maybe more. The big caveat is meeting someone who's a match.

If you want to reel in a fish, you will inevitably have thrown out your line many times and come up empty handed.

The elephant in the room is learning how to confront your own feelings regarding rejection in a healthy way. This is true regardless of how and where you meet others.

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