I can't imagine that ruminating on bad experiences makes one more resilient in the long-run. I've certainly been there, and the only thing that helped me was to move on, but to each their own.
The concurrence in the explosion of talk therapy and depression/anxiety diagnoses--as well as deaths of misery, like suicide and drug overdoses--supports this claim, but doesn't prove it, obviously.
I have resisted talk therapy because it does not provide measurably good outcomes.
And these children that you spit on
As they try to change their worlds
Are immune to your consultations
They're quite aware of what they're going throughMeditating on a broken leg won't make it hurt any less, meditating on how horrible your childhood was won't let you have a good one.
1. Understanding and processing is just not the same thing as ruminating. It's just not. Ruminating means you're not trying to get better.
2. Blaming talk therapy for the anxiety and depression, and actual opioid epidemic is absolutely ridiculous. Are you seriously saying talk therapy is more to blame than things like a pandemic, predatory prescription practices in the 2010's, and the societal disconnect experienced by today's youth (among the hundreds of reasons I could've written)?
Astounding.
Like how ruminates bring up and chew their cud.
It is literally just reliving things for the sake of itself, not to try to intentionally work through anything.
The hubris to suppose those who ruminate are doing it simply to pass the time...
It's a thing that means only part of the thing (honestly, pretty close to the opposite of the things?). Again, Apparently that's regional and I'm just now learning that.
"Talk therapy" is a super generic term, and approaches are by no means the same. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has good results in multiple studies. Read something about it, and if you think it could be an interesting experience - just like a sports massage can be good, even if you're not rehabbing a specific injury - you might give it a try.
This is not true. I'm not going to bother sourcing because if you just talk 2 seconds to lookup papers on the impacts (good or bad) of talk therapy you will have a very long list of papers in support of talk therapy.
This is without looking at the benefits of CBT or offshoots of CBT like ACT, which also have a large body of research around them. CBT has its deficiencies, but those can easily be mitigated.
More than anything it sounds like you are engaging in an avoidance strategy.
Trigger warning for violence to children. I'm an adult who has suffered immensely from anxiety. It was hard to make it through my 20s alive. I recently remembered several traumatic incidents from my childhood that I'd completely forgotten (I grew up in a really violent area: middle school crush almost kidnapped in front of me, gay friend taken to "pray away the gay" and never coming back, friend held up at gunpoint, was personally mugged, sexually assaulted, and almost kidnapped, all before the age of 17 when I moved out on my own). Let me tell you that "closing the stress loop" on those events was _extremely_ important for my ability to move on. Before, when I could not remember the events, it was a struggle to get through life at all. One day I had a specific nightmare, and the memories came rushing back. I confirmed with my family these had happened, so it's not my imagination.
For the last two years I've used CBT, talk therapy, and journaling to process that trauma and resolve those issues. It's been a lot of remembering them, talking them through, and just what is called "closing the stress loop". I've read books about PTSD, I've talked to people about it. I've cried, yelled, gone for long runs, and had long walks in the woods. And now for the first time in my adult life I'm not feeling that crushing sense of impending doom. Sure, it still comes back sometimes, but generally it is "resolved". Sometimes I feel a stab of pain about it, but then I feel sad, process the feelings, and move on.
Perhaps for you and your trauma, moving on without processing it is the right choice, but for me it absolutely was not. If you'd asked me in my twenties and early thirties, I would've have said "no thanks, talk therapy is dumb". I'd tried it a few times with bad providers who just drugged me up but things didn't improve. Meanwhile I had A Plan that I considered several times an hour, was spending at least a hour a day crying without knowing why, and was a functioning alcoholic. I'd tried some talk therapy, and it wasn't until I found a CBT therapist at a research program who takes outcomes extremely seriously that I felt like I was getting measurable improvement.
I'll leave it with: there's a huge difference between ruminating and processing trauma. The dose makes the poison. Just like there's a difference between binge drinking a bottle of jack every night and 100ml of wine with dinner once a week. (Although I'm completely sober from alcohol now, good riddance).