I never thought about it before reading this but most couples I know fall into this category. Probably because they largely fit the "tech guy marries non-tech gal" stereotype.
It's amusing to me that this article claims it is usually the case that the husband is still not cooking and cleaning even though he's home. I'm cooking and cleaning all the damn time. With all the time spent at home, cooking has become my favorite hobby. I am quite often sneaking in prep for some elaborate, showy dinner while waiting for a build to finish or on a call that doesn't require me to present or speak.
I really did miss working at the office where if I wanted to focus, I could.
kids is another story altogether. definitely need a bigger boat in that case.
Load washer and dishwasher before signing in.
Put clothes in the dryer and put away dishes while my food cooks for lunch.
Sort away my now-dry clothes after work.
Spending a couple mins mid-day to make machines do chores while everyone else is out at lunch shouldn’t sound unreasonable.
The only difference here is sticking something in the oven instead of drinking coffee.
And I'll add, with remote the start of day and end of day work times become less well defined, so I think many people end up working more spread out hours at times that are more effective for the company (e.g. responding to late night pings, if they happen to be near their computer).
my 1-on-1s with my team dont require me or them to be at a desk. i take a notepad upstairs and do dishes while on those calls.
during COVID my boss used to get on calls with me and it was clear he was at the grocery store because i could hear the self-checkout sounds in the background.
as long as items are communicated, remembered, and acted on -- who cares what is happening?
Have you tried having a contractor follow ICD 705?
https://www.dni.gov/files/Governance/IC-Tech-Specs-for-Const...
You don't fit the narrative, so most likely cases like yours are being ignored.
like charged windows to protect from TEMPTEST emissions, etc.