1. I agree, Prisma is not a great ORM. Drizzle is a better choice. It's close to the metal and when the abstraction inevitably leaks, it leaks towards the user using raw SQL
2. Modern JS is extremely performant. Look at any of the benchmarks for the new JS runtimes that have come out in the past 6 months (e.g. Bun / WinterJS / etc...). It approaches Go / Java in terms of performance.
3. Even the traditional NodeJS runtime has been optimized out the ass by Google. For example: JSON parsing has highly performant SIMD instructions under the hood. When a trillion dollar company puts billions of dollars behind a technology it will get fast.
4. There is no possible way that building your CRUD backend in Golang / Rust is a "faster" solution than just using React Server Components.
5. The vast majority of startups are IO-bound, not CPU-bound - so "fast" languages like Go / Rust won't be as relevant.
The benefits of Go (for most companies) only apply once your company hits an inflection point and starts to scale and starts to see the throughput that can really take advantage of a lower-level language.
If you're building a high-throughput infra company or something, then the things I've mentioned are less relevant.