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I really appreciated the author's candor about his father's passing and its impact on his relationship with software. My mom unexpectedly passed 14 months ago and I've similarly been feeling less excited about this industry since.

I've been slowing crawling out of this mindset but it's been a long journey.

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<3. So often, I wish I could still talk to him, about anything, incl Dark. I wish you the best in recovering from and processing your mother's passing - it's been over five years now since my dad's death. It's not easy, but it gets easier.

Maybe it's OK that software / the industry means less. Maybe death just puts things into perspective? At least, that feels like a component to me. Maybe I should have spent less time coding and more time calling him.

Thank you, I really appreciate that :) Yes, I'm starting to realize that it's a wound that never heals but instead one you just have to live with.

Not sure if this applies to you, but at least for me: One thought that's helped is remembering it was my mom who pushed me to pursue computer science. I think she'd want me to rediscover the passion I used to have, even though, like you're alluding to, I've learned that it has to be done in moderation.

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