For databases it varies quite a bit. Among people who like to use an ORM, TypeORM is the current thing that is in widespread use. For non-ORM people, most use pg or a similar thin-layer on top of raw SQL.

In enterprise it was a lot of raw SQL as well, in large part because there was a lot of different DBs to support from db2 to SQL Server to Postgres

They fall under a few buckets: Driver:

- node-postgres

- node-mysql2

Query Builder / Other thin clients: - knex - kysely - slonik ORM: - TypeORM - MikroORM - Objection.js - DrizzleORM - Prisma (actually runs a separate binary)