> "why don't programming languages have a built-in graph data type?"

What I find a little funny about that question is that people miss the fact that there isn't even a tree data structure in most languages. Most languages have static arrays, dynamic arrays, linked lists, and... that's it as far as structural types go. Everything else (BSTs, hashtables, etc.) is some semantic abstraction that hides some capabilities of the underlying structure, not a purely structural representation.