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> Dead-Penguin Tours (a type of tour in the late summer after penguins have abandoned weak chicks to die, leaving their bodies in popular tourist destinations, which causes grief in tourists)

I went on one of those and never realized I was supposed to feel bad about that. Am I a terrible person?

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>Words include tabulars (large flat-topped southern icebergs that break off from the Antarctic ice sheet and are usually over ten miles long)

You must've derived your username from those trip(s) too I bet.

A lot of people get upset when they see dead animals, especially if they're not used to it, especially if they're animals they perceive as cute.

Grief might be too strong a word.

I don't know that you're a terrible person, but I'd say you have a characteristic I'll leave others to identify, because what you write sounds like you consider emotional reactions to be prescribed enactments rather than automatic reactions. You're not supposed to feel bad as if according to some rules, but most people automatically would.

I mean the alternative is to go when the chicks are alive and watching them get swallowed whole by skuas. Antarctica is no petting zoo, but maybe some less serious tour operators make it out to be one and this is the result of that.

I think it’s more a common tourism problem, which is thinking what the experience will be like is quite different than actually experiencing it.

or as the highly experienced Mr. Tyson put a not too dissimilar situation so eloquently - “everyone has a plan until they get hit in the face”

I think it's okay to mention that as a possibility, but odds are you're reading way too far into that common wording.

I can't say that I agree with you in the slightest.

Not in the slightest? Because I'm pretty sure asking if you were "supposed to" feel something is in fact a common turn of phrase.

What you seem to be saying is that you have absolutely no doubt that it's reasonable to diagnose mental conditions based on a single short comment posted online.

That is, simply put, wrong and dangerous.

Supposed to can mean “expected to”. In fact, that is more so the original meaning.

And people may judge you if you don't react in the way people think "normal people" react. People have been convicted of murder because police or juries though they didn't react the way they were "supposed to".

This is one of the few things I have learned from my wife’s love of TV about crime.

oh you too have this problem?

My SO seems to be fascinated by those horror stories and how crimes are solved that leave me wondering sometimes if she isn't just documenting herself on how to do the perfect crime that wouldn't lead to her being caught.

She and her mother. My FIL and I go out to dinner with each other to get away from it, our wives are just fine eating takeout and watching crime shows.

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