Bullshit, the Unites States just legalize/justify their brutality. Torture becomes enhanced interrogation technique, Assassination List is the Disposition Matrix etc. etc.
Which you know about because it became subject to protests and litigation in America and open Congressional scrutiny. (It remains a travesty there has been no legal action in its respect.)
I'm not saying America doesn't do terrible things. Just that the rate at which it does so is dramatically lower than others. If you had to face military action from a foreign power, America is the best of the lot. Of course, that doesn't change that you'd rather not face military action from any foreign power.
As for your second point, your last statement is what matters. The us has engaged in more foreign military actions than any other nation since WW2. Who cares if they mask the brutality behind terms like precision strikes and collateral damage. We do terrible things and we do them frequently, usually for no benefit to anyone other than a select few. Everything you said is just trying to rationalize the fact we are the most aggressive country on the earth.