Work for you? Again? After you lied about the job and stole my stuff? No thanks
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When someone is rude to me and I have strong reason to believe they will continue to be rude to me, the first thing I'm thinking off is whether it's feasible to cut them out of my life entirely as fast as possible. Being rude back will only delay and overcomplicate that process. Being polite while immediately cutting them off won't.
Some of the easy first steps to take is to imagine that unpleasant people are having the worst day of their lives. We’re talking their dog dying, their spouse having affairs on FaceTime with their boss who fires them during their act, their car exploding all their clothes being too short and their doctor telling them they have cancer bad. Or imagine them naked or whatever which either generates sympathy or makes them ridiculous in your mind. And then use assertiveness to get away from them as fast as possible.
At least in civilized society where going down the path of Khorne is frowned upon for whatever reason.
I find it easier to think in these terms.
People can have a bad day and you cannot always trust the chemistry.
Now, some people take this as a sign of weakness, and always look surprised when on the third time I tear their throat out.
Being polite to rude people is a good way for them to try to take advantage of you. At the very least, if you don't enjoy being rude, it's best to ignore them.
In the case of the article, HR messed up by being rude to someone who was polite, and so, got the well deserved cold shoulder.
But I would certainly find it acceptable to respond rudely to rudeness. Tit for tat.
On the other hand, last night I was talking to a cop. He said that, in dealing with unruly people, you have to use swear words if you want to get through to them. It's the language that they understand.
So there may be a place where rudeness is the only thing that will work. It's probably not every time I'm rude, though...
But responding rudely to rudeness is not about it feeling good. Most people don't enjoy being rude, which is why we avoid it. But sometimes it's necessary in order for the other person to understand that this is not acceptable behavior. Otherwise, they will continue to be rude both to you and others.
It’s a startup, and the bank account is drying up fast. They talk about another round of funding, but I can easily imagine management deciding to fire all of the senior engineers shortly after the product launches in order to save costs.
While that would likely end up being a total disaster and doom the company, such myopia is all too common with upper management. The story from the article is hardly unique or exceptional.
I will be posting my details on the next “who wants to be hired” thread, because this seems like an increasingly likely scenario. It does not help my management’s case that they talked up a promotion that then was suddenly delayed until after the project is finished, after two years of raises that failed to match inflation.
That's a really bad sign. :(
Without that, I'm pretty sure their cheque to you would bounce. ;)
They demanded I be in their new office (which was 100 miles away) by 9am each morning, at which point they would usually send me to a client site a few miles from where I lived.
I was so sick of it I decided to resign. Somehow they got wind of this and decided to fire me for being late, but they legally had to follow a minimum process for this, so they needed a disciplinary meeting or two first.
At the meeting they asked me about the time I didn't get in until 1pm. I thought about it for a second, and said "oh, you mean the day the IRA bombed the M25 motorway?". Their faces fell, but they had another one up their sleeve. To which I responded "you mean the second time the IRA bombed it?". They really didn't have a leg to stand on, and I handed in my resignation notice at that meeting.
They then employed me as a contractor for the next 2 years on about twice my previous rate. All the other senior engineers privately contacted me about contracting and they all also left over the next year. The company eventually went bust; they also treated their customers badly, and lost several constructive dismissal lawsuits (which are quite hard to win normally).
I still take satisfaction that they got what they deserved.
Years ago I worked with a company that did the screens and compute for large bookmaker companies. Was in one of the client shops in London when a bomb went off.
They immediately changed the screens with the news on and I got a call from my boss stating under no circumstances should I mention a bomb went off half a mile from the shop I was in. Can't stop the revenue...
he set about replacing ... with new IBM hardware.
That was his first mistake. :)We're going through this right now. Migrating stuff to the cloud, then right before we turn off the old hardware we find out that there is still something super-important that didn't get included in the list of things to migrate. This is a people problem and nothing else.
60s / 70s / 80s -> nobody was fired for buying IBM
90s / 00s / 10s -> nobody was fired for buying MS / cisco
20s -> nobody's fired for migrating to AWS
(edited to add cisco)Aside from “you may now proceed to be angry”