YouTube addiction, one month sober
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Now I notice even more social proof to keep going deeper into the digital life. Public shaming over green chat bubbles and genuine confusion if I tell someone I’m on not on a Meta owned social network.
I wonder if we’re all so addicted now that it’s no longer social acceptable to talk about our addiction. I wonder if we just started talking to each other less as well.
The best content on YouTube is berried behind a wall of Mr Beast and Pewdie Pie style fluffery that I can't find any real value in most of the time. They dictate what is favorable, and that ruins the entire experience for me. The search has been flooded with SEO title spam, which makes finding specific content damn near impossible and/or very tedious.
I don't think you can be addicted to a hammer if it's a highly functional tool in getting work done. I don't think you can get addicted to a television if it's a tool used for relaxation or entertainment. I think we need to stop considering that apps become addictive, and really speak on if they manage to deliver on their promises and functional purposes.... Just my opinion.
Most apps become extremely annoying after years of being highly functional, and that represents corporate corruption more so than having an addictive product. It's not addicting if it does not fulfill a valid purpose when it begins to charge money for ad laced content or repeatedly waste people's time, apps cease to be useful after that point.
This is not my experience at all. The recommendations engine is what keeps Youtube as my #1 entertainment platform. My Youtube Recommendations ebb and flow, sometimes are better than others, but my feed absolutely never devolves into lowest-common-denominator super popular content, and is mostly dominated by small-to-medium sized channels in the categories that interest me.
Even if you would watch things like that, you can STILL just say "never show this channel". You should review your feed periodically, imagining you are at a trial, being asked "why didn't you eliminate this feed from your life? was it really helping you?" If not, just nuke it by banning that source. You won't regret it.
Shorts are another story - the org behind that does NOT care about letting you keep yourself clean from memetic trash, and has been given the right to pollute the YT feed. My policy there is "not even once; resist watching them and definitely never let a short automatically transition you to the next video; have some self-respect."
Shorts and the like should be regulated as a controlled substance.
I haven't seen any PewDiePie recommendation in years (to the point I even forgot him).
I don't really know what's actually popular on YouTube. All recommendations seem very personalized.
Strange, I had the opposite experience: COVID brought screen time discussions front and center as everyone was getting desperate for things to do away from their screen or becoming cognizant of how much screen time was at the center of their lives now.
I've always done a lot of outdoor activities. There was huge upward trend in the number of people I saw on hikes, out walking, or biking during COVID. It felt like everyone was getting outside again.
But obviously there was another world where people retreated to their homes, got comfortable with screens, and never unplugged.
The thing we all have a finite amount of is time, and we’re increasingly distracted to where we waste more and more of it on unimportant, artificial digital worlds/life while the real world passes by. As I’m getting older, I’m seeing how precious youth, energy, and health are, but those who have the most of that (younger people) seem to be sucked in even more. We’re racing towards the dystopia shown in the movie Ready Player One.
We have. Sadly people aren't allowed to be bored long enough to decide that they should see what other people are up to.
It used to be common to call or even drop by unannounced to check on people. Doing these things is now seen as some great sin.
It's like we are all eating plain ramen every day, and aren't getting our vitamins. Sure we are full but we have deeper needs.
This has been considered rude at least since my parents were kids in the 1950s.
I would imagine it was a lot more common before the telephone at home was widespread, but I've always found turning up unannounced to be rude.
People did this all the time until txting was common. Once txt was common there was no reason to just drop by someone's place randomly without giving them a heads up.
Once the telephone was popular in the US this was something that people in our circle just stopped doing. All it took was a 30 second phone call to say "hey, can if I head over if you're not busy?" (and the answer was almost always yes, I'll agree that is likely different than today) to make sure, so that was considered the polite thing to do in our working class semi-rural midwest circle.
If you're living truly in a rural area where you're sharing a party line with others and the nearest place is over a mile away then yes, I'll concede, that was probably much more normal.
Of course there are some unwritten rules and some people that you do call ahead, but for many it’s still an acceptable practice.
It will only accelerate from here.
It would suprise me if one person in my 30k pop county lives of "social media". And I don't put the bar that high. Like atleast McDonalds pay.
Maybe one in 100 000 does? Concentrated to big cities. I have never seen any stats on this. Some quick searching just gave Forbes and other probably made up numbers.
They'll probably grow out of it. Half my high school class thought they were going to be major league baseball players or NFL players when they grew up. Now they're accountants and HVAC installers.
Social media has no such limitations. Certain segments favor the young but there are plenty of middle aged and a few older Youtubers making bank. I could certainly see some people holding onto the dream for far too long hoping for a break. A very few might even get it.
The mentality that you mention, which really only applies to some small number of people, won't survive (1) a prolonged economic downturn that dries up ad revenue breaks the ad-supported business model, (2) a large war that summons young people away from their homes or impacts infrastructure, (3) a strong economic upswing that open promising new opportunities, (4) a legislative change in the accessibility of social media, etc.
At least some of those things that dramatically disrupt the current social media landscape will happen. It's just not that durable in its current form, and we already see that in its changing landscape, with more of the gardens becoming walled to keep balance sheets stable, more of the previously-leading service bleeding off users, more self-regulation actions meant to outmaneuver legislative hearings and lawsuits, etc
People can have social media as their "core identity" all they'd like, but they'll eventually discover that everyone's life ultimately involves a bunch of chapters where your "core identity" looks real darn different. Most don't get to keep a "core identity" just because it happens to be the one they adopted in their teens or twenties. In fact, most learn that they wouldn't even have wanted to anyway.
If it was conceivable to raise in the ranks and get good compensation and respect by hard and diligent work, young people would be very interested. But that's not been the case for a long time. Young people will always flock to where they can succeed on their own merits, wether that was being a soldier, sailing in the merchant fleet, digging for gold, acting, business, technology, etc.
If healthcare isn't their interest, Biglaw starting salaries for first year associates are $225k and go up rapidly. Other areas of law draw salaries from $150k to millions.
Obviously tech compensation is discussed here frequently, with high salaries possible for dev work as well as design, management, sales, support.
Finance and business consulting still pull in massive classes of entry level employees every year, with high starting salaries and higher comp for those who stay.
Fossil fuel extraction is full of high paid jobs, whether engineers and scientists designing equipment or field workers getting their hands dirty.
Social media is a tiny, tiny opportunity compared to other parts of the economy. For every influencer making $100k, there will be tens of thousands of people making six figures in a different domain.
Biglaw and finance consulting I doubt is open for everybody to work in, unless your parents paid for a prestigious college. The door is pretty well welded shut, as far as I know. Social media is on the other hand free to start building your audience.
Tech is the outlier, I agree with you on that one. If you have the talent you can make it in tech still as a young person only on talent and hard work.
Social media is such a tiny opportunity monetarily that it doesn't even count. It's not the money making young people flock to social media – because there is almost no money there – it is the chance of being somebody, having people listening to you and getting some respect as a person. Rather than being treated as a piece of shit by your boss for no reason.
Not in the US, but the (hard working) engineers and dentists that I personally know all needed financial help from parents to be able to afford their very humble dwellings. Every financially successful person I know either inherited real estate or bought real estate before most of humans were born. Some of them also work hard, but that doesn't influence their financials much.
I'd like to ask what is the average pay for a non-working homeowner in California? How much can they expect to earn tax free per year from their real estate increasing in value, as compared to the hard working and highly taxed nurse earning from labour?
It's absurd to claim that working or having a career delivers no monetary benefits.
Just compare the level of taxation on labour with the taxes on real estate or imports/exports.
The folks that really burn my biscuits are the ones that are incredulous I'm not on Facebook. If after telling them exactly why they shouldn't be on Facebook (Cambridge Analytica and the Trump/Johnson psyops), if they still don't get it, I generally avoid them.
FYI - Slowly I've seen keyfobs with 1 time code generators replace phones as a 2fa system. For instance, etrade and ebay use them now.
Hell, as much as it may be a bad thing compared to a healthy information ecosystem and better balance of physical activity with passive video consumption, I'm not even sure an addiction to an algorithmic content feed is all that bad compared to many other alternatives. Consider many countries are still in the midst of epidemics of opioid addiction. I think my wife might be "addicted" to YouTube. She seems more interested in watching endless Bob Ross episodes than anything else in life right now, but ultimately it has her painting and that isn't terrible. She's also an alcoholic and that's an addiction that put her in the ICU for 5 days twice in the decade we've been married. My best friend from high school tried to quit cold turkey in 2016 and died at the age of 36 from physiological withdrawal symptoms because she detoxed at home and not in an ICU. I'd much rather have my wife sucked into algorithmic rabbit holes than finding those duffle bags of empty bottles this author talks about.
While I'm sure there are more productive ways to use your time, YouTube is at least not directly killing anyone, and if you're getting some useful information or entertainment value or both from it, that's a heck of a lot better than other things you could get addicted to.
I say self-serving because my average daily phone use is <30 minutes, I'm not present on any social networks besides a reluctant LinkedIn account, but I do watch more Youtube than I should. I'd like to think it's unrelated to those things, because I only watch channels I'm already subscribed to, and am uninterested in being steered by recommendations.
I'd much rather actually do something that just veg out watching TV.
The same thing has happened in the past (an old Wodehouse school-story has a kid being yelled at for reading "trash" (David Copperfield) during class instead of the Latin he was supposed to be working on.
If people are invited to spend tens of hours a week in soaking in media, that time is being borrowed from somewhere and in the modern historical context that's the time being stolen from home care, crafts and extra labor, sports and physical activity, third place social time in the community, etc -- changes that can dramatically alter society if taken up by enough people and can impact personal wellness even just for one person.
Constant, widespread social media immersion is absolutely having an impact on social and personal wellness and we can actually look to those previously normalized shifts as our evidence that it does.
What we aren't justified do, even as some here try, is assume that this impact of social media immersion will be harmless or beneficial just because pulp novels and couch potato living haven't yet destroyed modern society.
As you note, innocuous/harmless doesn't seem to be where the evidence is pointing so far.
Social isolation starts with kids not being allowed to play unsupervised. Don't hear too many cries to increase unsupervised time we hear the opposite. A screen might be the one thing to help that.
That may not be always bad, mind you, but it seems pretty obvious to me that it has occurred and is occurring.
I could rant much more about it, but suffice to say that just because we don't think something is a problem anymore doesn't mean it wasn't (and isn't) a problem.
Does anyone know of ways to be a successful work-from-home knowledge worker while also locking down Slack to not be another slot machine??
Does anyone else feel conflicted about the internet as both a means to a comfortable/lucretive career but also the ultimate drug?
I’ve thought of only allowing Slack for 10 min each hour to make it more like an IV drop of info, but what happens when I actually need to DM in real time?
meta P.S. I’m refreshing this and reading the replies — what a rush! So much more rewarding than what I should be doing. :)
The little tricks to limit things and set timers can help, but the root problem is that you're describing yourself as being on autopilot: You get magnetically pulled to the next time waster.
Work on being more deliberate in your choices. Fill your time with things that provide a sense of accomplishment and remind yourself throughout the day what the goal is. If it helps, write the goal out on sticky notes and put it on your monitor, then review it throughout the day.
When you're tired and need a break, get away from the computer. Go for a walk or just stretch. Don't let your autopilot draw you back into the default easy time waster yet again. Create an array of positive activities to fill your time with so that you have more things to choose from, not just another round of scrolling something on a screen.
Positive reinforcement is the only way to train yourself new complex behaviors. Preferably using back-chaining for new environments. To reprogram existing behaviors you need to find the points where the "wrong" behavior is triggered and identify something that always occurs just before that trigger point. Then program/train yourself to do the new behavior based on the preceding trigger. That way you start down the path of the new desired behavior before the old undesired behavior gets triggered. Eventually it will atrophy and rarely get triggered any more (but still sometimes).
We share >80% of our DNA with any other arbitrary mammal, so you can use any book on dog training for this. I recommend Sophia Yin.
I set specific times of day when I will allow electronics and I have disabled notifications from work-necessary apps outside of work hours and silenced notifications from all apps except from those folks I’ve explicitly allowed (my elderly parents and kids). I have silenced notifications from everyone else, always.
You have to be diligent and find alternatives to fill your time. I recently started seeing someone new after a divorce. She is amazed at how “disconnected” and “relaxed” my lifestyle is compared to others. We don’t fill our days with ‘stuff’, outside the home or electronic in nature, opting for purposeful downtime that allows for quiet, creativity, and relaxation from the mandatory parts of our lives.
You can get there. Just think of the life you would prefer and make time and take meaningful and small, incremental steps toward it.
Good luck.
Becoming comfortable with discomfort was huge -- the thing that I'm avoiding is probably the thing I need to do and will feel great afterwards.
Sometimes the anxiety is high and I find working with another person helps, either sitting beside them or actively. In the WFH era I found FocusMate to be super helpful, you pair with another person and share what you plan to do to in that time block via video chat and then go on mute and check in after the session to see how much progress you've made.
I find this alleviates a lot of anxiety and having a block of time where you verbalize your goals makes it manageable.
You can try for free and do up to 3 sessions per week. I did it and found it helpful so I bought the year subscription.
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So goal is not to eliminate social media, but to recognize why I'm doing it, and look for real-world social (or other constructive) ways of pushing it out.
"Workout improves your willpower" sounds a lot like a 90 year old thing.
Install "LeechBlock" in Firefox and "AppBlock" for apps. Block Reddit, Facebook, Twitter, CNN or whatever bad habit feedscrolling sites you use.
Limit it to like 2200-2300 in the beginning and then just set a total ban after one or two weeks.
It helped me alot. It was ridiculous how I had like muscle memory to open these things for no reason at all, all the time. I noticed first after I got the block message I set myself.
After a month or two the bad habit was gone.
Reddit got some third party mirrors for specific threads I want to read in search results (with a clunky high bar to reach) and there are plenty of alternatives to CNN. Etc.
[0]: https://www.tampermonkey.net/ [1]: https://gist.github.com/stephengodderidge/df3b33b92bb3eeb2f3...
Leechblock allowed me to just press "visit anyway", but just having that short "uh oh" moment let me know I was mindlessly doing something without even thinking about it. Like checking the front page of HN for the fifth time that hour.
My ability to focus skyrocketed.
Seeking validation from others is very human, and many people do that in real life as well. The difference with the digital realm is that the response is represented as emojis on your screen, so it gives you something direct to focus on. In real life the response requires interpretation, social cues, etc., and is not as immediate.
If you work remotely then don't feel so stressed about this behavior. Tools like Slack can be a huge distraction, so you can try disabling notifications when you want to focus on work. Just like you blocked social media, you can reserve specific timeslots to check Slack. I'm sure your coworkers would understand, as they likely also feel the same way.
At the end of the day, like any harmful habit, you have to break it with willpower and sometimes force, but this is manageable with digital tools. You're not _physically_ addicted to this.
I've been told I might have undiagnosed ADHD tho, not sure if relevant. Anyway, YMMV, but it could be worth a shot!
Probably a good idea to combine with exercise and/or mindfulness exercises.
- Exercise, strength training is great but always include 30+ min of cardio at least once per day. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neurobiological_effects_of_p...
- Diet, vitamins/minerals. Magnesium is particularly important. Making first meal of the day high-protein tends to be helpful.
- Sleep. Generally most improved by exercise.
- Caffeine. Depending on your neurological phenotype, may be very helpful or may be very counterproductive.
- Other supplements. Many of the anti-depressive supplements like Huperzine, Ashwaganda, etc. can be double-edged swords (work well at first then backfire). Some precursors like Phenylethylamine, L-Dopa, 5-HTP, etc. can have profound effects similar to prescription drugs, though all tend to have very short half-lives. I'd honestly lump most of these in with "prescription drugs" in terms of potential for large effects and major side effects.
If you're skipping ahead to illegal (in most jurisdictions) drugs like psilocybin, you may also consider all the prescription options for anything that affects the dopamine or serotonin systems. Everyone is different and most drugs are net-negatives (sometimes in dramatic life-altering ways), so it often requires a lot of patience and effort to go through all of them until you find what "works" for you.
I'm still kinda new to this whole thing, so I'm probably the wrong person to ask. But from my experiments so far it seems going without shrooms isn't a problem.
A quick googling suggests there is no physical addiction associated with psilocybin, so I guess I'm not the first to reach that conclusion.
I never acknowledge any slack message before 9am my time. I did that at one company and realized how absolutely miserable it would make me when I was getting dressed in the morning to see some fire going on or request or anything work related before I was "on," even if I wasn't really involved.
Gotta keep my mornings pure and innocent now.
Running long distances works really well for me.
There’s a neat thing about running. Humans are really good at it provided we can focus on what we’re doing and maintain a pace. Focus is hard in the modern world but when you lose that focus, your lungs will tell you right away.
Work is the same thing. We really don’t want to sprint through the tape and bonk when we’re 20% through. Instead, we want to find a pace, focus and hold it.
I always find a bit of humor in discussions such as these on social media.
Glad you acknowledge it.
I’m a fan of BJ Fogg’s “Tiny Habits” as the book includes memorable summary diagrams, and the author is credible as an active researcher (his work was cited in the lectures of a university course I later took, after reading his book on my own). Alternative books are James Clear’s “Atomic Habits” (which cites BJ Fogg’s work) and Charles Duhigg’s “The Power of Habit.” There is a lot of overlap between the ideas of each book, so you can’t go wrong, though I found that BJ Fogg’s book was the most concise.
The most relevant idea from Fogg’s book is that behaviour is a function of motivation, ability to do a behaviour, and exposure to prompts for the behaviour. From a summary of his book [1]: “B=MAP considers that there are 3 key factors that need to be present for any behaviour (B) to occur: motivation (M), ability (A), and prompts (P). The model proposes that when these three elements are present at any given time, the person is pushed above the ‘threshold’ for action to do the behaviour.”
It sounds like you’ve already thoroughly attempted to change the habit by reducing your ability to engage in the behaviour (via blocking social media). Fogg, in his chapter on changing a habit, strongly recommends addressing the motivational aspect behind the behaviour. You can consider the question: what is it that motivates you to check for emoji reactions? For example, Fogg discusses how a person fixed a sugar consumption habit once she identified that it was a response to grief from losing a loved one, and addressed her grief in a healthier way—this may or may not be relevant to you.
Prompts are also important (via asking yourself: “what prompts the behaviour to check social media?”), as Fogg also recommends using them as a starting point to change your response to a healthier alternative. But he emphasizes the importance of focusing on the motivational aspect, as he wrote that it would not have been enough for the person with the sugar consumption habit to simply replace sugar with a healthier alternative like celery—the motivational aspect was the most important for her case.
[1] https://www.habitweekly.com/models-frameworks/the-fogg-model
I agree that your suggestion is rational, but the article brings up addiction and lack of control which I feel describes me. I’d love a “just block it”, escape hatch of a solution but maybe I’m SOL and have to learn mindfulness
Not possible at "remote first" workplaces.
It's best to assume that not every workplace functions in a way compatible with this universal "let's turn off Slack and only check it once an hour" scenario. Also, these decisions cannot be made on an individual basis -- that's the best way to get fired -- but everyone else must be on board, at least your immediate peers. If you're not their boss, and they don't see the benefit, this will gain no traction.
The reality is that no, not everyone can remove Slack notifications and only check it once an hour or whatever.
It's the same with bullshit meetings. Just decline the invitation and you'll be surprised how little anyone will usually care.
Is it so hard to accept that "universal" advice is seldom universal, and that your circumstances may not apply to everyone?
Does anyone else feel conflicted about the internet
as both a means to a comfortable/lucretive career but
also the ultimate drug?
i mean obviously i mitigate it as much as possible (blocking sites, etc) but daaaaaaaamn. what a fundamentally tricky tension.
Plenty of other unhealthy habits in that line of work, don't get me wrong. But little association between the pleasures of food and making the food.
I walk, read books, exercise, cook, and spend social time with others. If I'm not exhausted I'll also practice my instrument and write. Eventually you won't have to think about it too much just by avoiding excess screen-time, but until such a point, owing to habit and conditioning, one feels very lost going without.
It's a pity the YT PMs insist on designing the app like a Vegas casino, I'd really like to use the YT app for healthy usage, but well.
I had a similar experience to yours. It's very hard to not get sucked into them. I would keep scrolling even when I am actively disliking the actual content being shoved into my face.
It was a very sober realization for me that our brains can hijacked like this using the TikTok formula.
I find my consumption to be way down because the YouTube site is... good, but not great, on Safari, but I can still readily consume what I like.
It also supports picture-in-picture and I've never seen an ad on YouTube in the past 3 years except when I load them on my TV. I didn't even know there was an adblock competition going on except for in the news because I've just never seen any.
A similar effect happens to me on Twitter. I sometimes click on a video / dumb meme account, etc. just to take a break or whatever (Twitter does a much worse job at creating the attention vortex, so it's easy for me to literally make it a 2m break). BUT, some hours later the algo digests my click and turns my feed into absolute garbage repeating an endless firehose of dumb meme content. (In Twitter's case this is actually helping me: I really avoid clicking on dumb content so the algo doesn't go nuts.)
Just in case it wasn't clear; not trying to change your mind, more a heads up that they might find bait you find to be shiny.
Oh but shoutout to one of the series with short-form content (2-5 minutes typically, not a 'short') that truly respects your time; no intros, no talking, just purely answering the question; 'what happens when I put this red hot nickel ball on this?' [1] red hot nickel ball.
A patchlist is here: https://revanced.app/patches
Now I actually have the focus and drive to do the things I should be doing, rather than lazying my day off on YouTube with a hidden yet growing shadow of worthlessness and self-hate. In fact, now that I have improved focus, I don't have the patience to sit and watch Let's Plays any more. I either zone out, doze off or think about stuff I should be doing, and I just turn it off.
YMMV.
Very glad you found something that helped, but this is a good place to warn people that everyone is different. In some people, stimulant treatment can actually kindle problematic behaviors like the one you escaped. For some, they enhance focus but that results in more focusing on the hobbies, distractions, and side projects.
I bring this up because while ADHD medication is great for some, there's a growing problem of people reading positive anecdotes and assuming it's quick fix for all things lifestyle related. In clinic practice there's a growing number of people showing up with everything from stimulant-exacerbated Dermatillomania (skin picking disorders) to problematic behaviors with porn consumption after seeking out stimulant treatment based on internet advice. Stimulants are powerful drugs, and there's an entire other conversation to be had about the excessive prescribing practices of some of the providers out there (my pharmacist friends are in disbelief at the size of some of the doses they're handing out to people these days).
When I finally did start taking stimulants for the ADHD, it was magical. I was really really worried that it would cause me to get locked into obsessive compulsive cycles I was already in, and talked to my doctor quite a bit about what would work for me.
I started taking methylphenidate in 2022 and it was life changing. It was the first time that I felt I had some amount of control over my focus, whereas before I would just get stuck on whatever anxiety inducing thought I've had.
Now, I've never been more regulated, and it's never been easier to pull my attention to something else. That isn't to say that it's solved all my problems, it hasn't. I still have bad days and triggers and can still spiral out in different ways, but I'm managed to hold down a job for an entire year now.
Currently, I'm still struggling with trying to figure out what I need (in an emotional sense) at any given time. Should I have a cry? Reach out to a friend? Do yoga? Eat some food? Etc, and I'm working with my therapist to try to figure out that intuition a little.
Certainly. On dexamfetamine, focus has a distinctive sticky quality to it. I need to be very careful where I direct it. Opening HN mid-morning means a productive session of commenting and getting into Internet arguments.
It's a negative side effect that can be overcome with a good routine and schedule. I take my meds, sit at my desk and open Emacs at 9am every day, 7 days a week. Distractions are blocked, so the path of least-resistance is just doing work. But then again, good routine and schedule are relatively easy to set up once medicated.
Much easier to set up, yes, but many people learn about ADHD and medication from the internet lately (TikTok especially) and assume it's a complete fix in a pill.
You're a perfect example of doing it right: Setting up routines, setting up guardrails, maintaining the old techniques for discipline. Unfortunately that's not what happens with a lot of people who skim internet comments and then get a prescription from their doctor.
This problem isn't unique to ADHD. There's a similar problem with depression where people get SSRIs and assume they don't have to make any efforts any more, then wonder why they're still somewhat depressed. It's a difficult problem to solve when people only see their doctors for a small window of time but then consume hours and hours of low-quality internet advice from Reddit and TikTok every day.
This is a huge factor. I find myself slipping into a pattern of non-stop YouTube or social media scrolling when I haven't been taking my meds. I've had several friends who also have ADHD tell me similar stories.
I wish ADHD was more well understood by the public. I blame two decades of jokes about the disability just being hyper kids through the '90s and '00s. Many people don't even realize that ADHD often persists into adulthood, where it is arguably more disruptive to the patient's lifestyle.
I tried to do something similar with twitter (now known as X), but it doesn't seem to work.
The real solution seems to be having stuff in life that actually gives you self-actualization and spend least possible time at work fucking around.
Sometimes it's hard to find what to do and you still need some "filler" activities.
At least with HN there is the possibility of something interesting and not just mindless bullshit.
Everything is relative too. I think of my World War 2 vet grandfather. He worked a mindless job, then came home and drank beer until he went to bed while watching TV.
We seem to pretend before the internet that the average person would clock out from their amazing, uplifting job and then head off to some Vienna Circle level discussion about the nature of reality.
While often falling way short, my reality is much closer to that than any of my ancestors could have ever dreamed of.
I started sliding down that slope with No Man's Sky but have since corrected (fortunately NMS isn't as well put together as WoW or it might have been worse).
The key for me is running away from something you feel you have no control over feels like a better solution than dealing with the pain. Escaping into a world that has expected behaviors that you can understand is, for me, less painful than a world with people advancing bad agendas for self serving reasons.
The pain is real, the fight doesn't stop, every day you shoot for "well I didn't give in to my fears today, on to tomorrow."
Everyone has things they feel like they should be or need to be doing every day.
We are allowed to do things that give us joy that take us out of the day to day, it's just whether or not these things start to consume so much of your time that you negate other important areas.
It’s surprisingly easy to fall into a rut and just keep doing what you’ve been doing even when it’s not really doing it for you anymore.
But then rather than recommending more content along the same lines (which I would probably bookmark but not be encouraged to click), there is a short low quality video that somehow slides under the radar of "not worth my time". And then this chains together, and what started out as a low-regret interaction has spiraled into a high-regret one.
uBlock rules for the shorts, recommendations, etc. basically solved this problem for me. I think there is a ton of potential with the alternative YouTube frontends too. We have access to an unprecedented amount of information, it's just hidden behind malicious interfaces.
It's been a year since I've used it, and I definitely see an improvement as the platform is no longer pushing content down to me, but at times I find myself frantically searching channels I used to watch, to see if there is a new video since I last checked. I only remember a dozen at most, way fewer than the ~100 channels I was subscribed to.
Overall an improvement, but I don't consider myself cured.
I was expecting it to be a fools' errand to be my own gatekeeper. But just getting a "page won't load" error a few times, and suddenly I'm not scrolling Reddit etc. for an hour at bedtime. I also find myself gravitating towards more productive things to do. I'm equally as bored, but the quick jolt of brain drugs I get from Reddit now has to come from working on my purely-in-software microwave or whatnot.
The idea is just to defuse instant gratification. Works pretty well for me.
here is two more extensions, one for youtube and another to block social network feeds
https://github.com/AlexisDrain/Less-Addictive-YouTube https://github.com/jordwest/news-feed-eradicator
As an example, people often text me a tweet. I want to be able to read the tweet, or look up certain sources of information. So I don't want to block twitter. And being logged out prevents reading a thread. But I also don't want to scroll my feed. Solution --> stay logged in, but with my work account which has a dull feed.
Instagram is a waste of time on my phone. But I need to login occasionally to check messages and I like seeing the odd update. Solution --> use nextdns to block on my phone, check on computer in browser.
So on my phone I identified instagram, youtube and twitter as the things where I waste the most time. NextDNS blocks youtube and instagram entirely, and the for twitter I use the login solution above.
On my mac I'm most likely to waste time checking various websites. So I just put anything I want to check into Netnewswire. It gathers it all, it's quick to go through, and then when it's done there's nothing else to check.
I also catalogued "what do I actually want to do on my phone" down to the level of even reviewing the modqueue on reddit in the browser. Then I made homescreen shortcuts for any of it, so I have an easy thing to tap which lowers friction for doing something I want, rather than something aimless.
Also sounds funny but I made an effort to close all tabs and open loops on my mac before starting my day. Have always been the type to have too many tabs, and it sort of takes up mental RAM.
There's no single big solution, but by chipping away at the problem and checking "what do I find unsatisfying" and "what do I want to do, where?" I've made a system that actually works pretty well for me.
I've tried cold turkey before, and it works great, especially if it's only for a single service. But the thing is it's kind of inconvenient to totally block youtube or twitter or anything as they often have useful info. Corraling them has been more sustainable for me.
This stuff is dangerous for a large percentage of individuals. And AI generated video content is only going to make it worse.
Imagine you're wearing your Apple Vision Pro or Meta Quest or future VR headset, watching a 180 degree "immersive" AI generated video. The eye tracking system notices your eyes fatigue slightly and it determines your attention is lacking. The algorithm instantly tweaks some settings and modifies the inputs to the AI video generation tool based on what it thinks (knows) will make you pay more attention, as it inserts subtle adverts here and there. AI video generation isn't free after all.
Five years ago this sounded like dystopian science fiction - but it's basically already possible with today's technology.
The feelings and withdrawal I went through were exactly the same.
Ever since I’ve been convinced that social media are not passive or even active sources of content. They’re much better viewed as addictions like smoking or drinking.
And just like smoking or drinking some people may be able to use social media responsibly, but many others are gonna be badly addicted and even the ones who do it responsibly will largely be worse off for it.
I made a twitter account recently and followed Jonathan Blow, Sebastian Lague, and 3blue1brown. I just scrolled through the default twitter page and I got karen videos, a naked woman in a car caught cheating, israeli soldiers harassing someone, a police dog mauling someone. I made an instagram account to see 3blue1brown videos on my phone and went to the default page (I assume it knows nothing about me) and I was given videos of disabled people doing sports which are clearly meant to be "funny", with extremely hateful comments apparently from children, spelling out the N-word with separate letters, etc. That was in 3 minutes of using Instagram and I gave up. I am interested in game development and a google search of "game development" gives me absurd "industry knowledge" youtube videos and r/gamedev. r/gamedev is just "meta-commentary" pointing out "societal problems" of game developers, you won't make money, noob assumptions, angry at the world, even mixing in discussions of depression, self-hate. It is a mess. Where are the people talking about neat collision detection tricks? I am aware that this is the "surface level" and I will eventually need to find and curate a variety of incoming "feeds", such as group chats with good engaged people, great forums, etc., but I just don't feel like it is "natural" to find them. I feel like I need to start a project for myself to intentionally build my own "algorithm" which leads me to find enriching content. I feel though that that is actively going against what "the internet" wants me to do. It is so easy to find such hateful things, and I am worried it will bring me back to being as depressed as I was before quitting the internet.
In January of 2022 I decided to take a YouTube "fast", kicking YouTube for a while. I couldn't bring myself to commit to more.
It was waaaaaay hard to stop. I got on Nebula as a sort of Nicorette for a while, a month or two. I can recommend Nebula as a sort of sieve for really high quality content btw. I stopped my subscription, but it was great to only be able to watch videos that didn't feel like they were trying to hook me, all while getting some really good stuff out of it. I particularly liked Half as Interesting, RealLifeLore, and Johnny Harris, all of which were on Nebula. These videos didn't contribute to the "hooked" feeling, giving me something to use to wean myself off YouTube.
After my fast was over, it was so hard to stop that I didn't start again.
I will still watch the occasional YouTube, but it's usually either shared by friends or specifically searched for by me.
I have gotten looser in the last few days, but I have regretted it. I started swearing in my head less when I stopped watching YouTube. I had fewer intrusive thoughts. I had a clearer head, and I want to keep that.
My Psychiatrist has told me no screens two hours before bed. I started living by that too, and have found much more rest when I do. I discovered by doing this that I have a screen "budget", that I can't go over that without restless leg, twitching, and pain at the end of the day. Now that I know this, I am less inclined to use that budget on YouTube.
I miss a lot of creators on there, but I went back to watch some of them recently and was disappointed. Other mediums simply provide better content. Blog posts seem to be the best for this.
There are still some creators that are amazing, and I am truly missing out! I miss watching Primitive Technology videos for example. I still allow myself to specifically search for these, by I try to limit myself to one or two videos a day or less. I find that to be the sweet spot for keeping off of being hooked.
I struggle with this, but it's incredible what a difference it makes when I make it happen. I'm mostly content with watching a show before bed now (which is technically a screen), but this comes from having Netflix/YouTube up, my phone out, and my laptop sitting in front of me (yeah, it's crazy one can operate like that).
More importantly, I've been strict on "no screens in bed" which has also played a key role.
You’re right that there’s good content on there, but I’m not convinced someone would be missing out on 99.9% of it. Or more.
I’ve used it far too much in the past as well. Today I feel like it was purely a vice and a distraction. My impression of various things being “good” was based on its ability to keep me watching without feeling immediate shame or being made too aware of how I was distracting myself from more important things. Had I never seen most of it, not much would be different. Things would likely be better for me.
So I run an autodownloader that downloads a bunch of channels as well as my liked videos for posterity. I'd like to give nebula a try, but ultimately it's important to me that I'm able to save the content I consume and access it later
A lot of the gaming-related stuff is just pure garbage.
"Secret gaming room" channels are especially egregious. Saw one where a kid bought a used boat (the kind with a below-deck area with a bed, kitchen, etc.), the kind you can get for ~20k or less if it is ~30 years old. Made a "secret gaming den", and then intentionally sunk the boat just to add some drama with the "secret den" filling up with water.
There's so many of these idiots on YT, that I can't even find the video now among hundreds of pages of videos.
Yes, they need to stay off my lawn.
Like, people maybe watch them for an average of 15s instead of 10s before zapping since they are so stupid.
I got the same theory about the Facebook feed. Where "car accident videos" or "disgusting things" get more spread than they should since people stop scrolling for 12% more time while blocking the poster or something ...
In the few hobby subreddits that I frequented, non-mainstream opinions or new ideas were often drowned out by the hivemind and people with less experience or knowledge. In short, a real discussion rarely came up or was even possible.
And in the case of questions I realized that so many people have no clue but still feel compelled to answer.
I'll omit my rant on career advice subreddits here.
For my hobbies specifically, I've reverted back to forums. You can have a relaxed discussion over the span of weeks, and interesting threads might remain active for months. You can get to know the users by their signatures, and the average age of users is also higher. Some of the users might even be professionals instead of just hobbyists, where I feel that was rare on Reddit.
This gives me some friction, without having to go cold turkey. All the popular social media sites have mobile websites that are "good enough", but slightly clunkier than the apps, and also they can't send me notifications.
My phone screentime per day has dropped by about 1/3rd.
I find it less distracting then music or podcasts.
In the early days of YouTube I would say I was addicted, or spent a lot of time on there. At one point I realized how much of a waste of time it was and now only look up car repair videos.
I hope everyone can get out of the YT rut.
One thing that worked well for me is having two separate profiles, one for educational and one for everything else. That way the education one didn't get as polluted with the most addictive recommendations
(little self-promotion) One thing I found to be useful was to try to focus on learning more actively, so I built a tool that turns educational videos into mini-courses where it will ask you questions about the content and then use spaced repetition to help you actually remember the information.
One of the other parts is to ensure that the suggestions/feed is focused solely on education, and that you don't fall into the addicting videos trap... (I have the v1 but still working to make this better)
But I think if the addiction is bad enough as in the post, it's probably a better idea to go cold turkey
(link is https://www.platoedu.org)
I hide all recommendations and suggestions, so basically all I can do on YouTube is look at channels I've subscribed to, or search for videos I need.
I use it on mobile (Firefox on Android) too.
I also created a new YouTube account (note this doesn’t require you to create a new Google account), and manually added all my subscriptions. This means it has no data on what to recommend me and so the recommendations are terrible and I never even want to click them.
This encourages me to carefully curate my subscriptions, so I only watch high-quality videos from consistently high-quality channels.
I also have nebula but I find increasingly many of the channels are too low-quality for me. I think this is because my standards have been raised and my detection of low quality has improved. I’m now not sure that it’s worth it for me though.
YouTube dominates TV streaming in US, per Nielsen's latest report
https://techcrunch.com/2024/02/20/youtube-dominates-tv-strea... (https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=39463296)
It’s gotten to the point that I use incognito mode for random video links to avoid wild swings in recommendations.
Google want my eyeballs for 2 solid hours, but I wish they'd let users focus their viewing time with a few basic controls. I'd disable Shorts in a heartbeat.
What an I waiting for? There's still plenty of long format content I genuinely enjoy. Perhaps it's time for an alternative client.
A big reason why I can ignore it though, when it's on 24/7.. mine plays the exact same documentaries, almost always WW2 or US Revolutionary War stuff over and over and over again. I watch a LOT of history documentaries but I have absolutely no interest in either of these time periods and have probably never searched for or liked any American history video. I'm a swords and shields guy.
The last month straight it's been on a revolutionary war kick with some 3-5 hour long George Washington documentary in between another one about how Goebbels ran off to argentina and his wife wouldn't join him so he married his dead brothers widow. I know everything about the guys now.
My theory is it plays the same stuff over again because it's already cached and saves them bw, them assuming you're not actually watching anyway but they can still pump viewership numbers for advertising.
RE: Thread.. I'm awful at getting off the computer after work. I'll move on to personal projects and everything else and just sit here for the whole day. My adhd + being able to instantaneously get dopamine has me chained, I like to go camping to detox.
Been forcing myself to go for a walk at 5pm now that it's not pitch black out then anymore.
It keeps that part of my brain occupied, but not focus, while I work on the task at hand.
There's points I'll realize I've gone 6mo+ without opening spotify except for when I'm driving. Just months and months of the news or youtube as background and no music.
I think it simply depends if you were growing up with TV in the background. I haven't, so it's not soothing, it's maddening to have noise, loud chatter and unwanted sounds going on when I'm trying to direct my uneven focus.
The only thing that do not detract from focus is droning, instrumental music: psytrance or techno. But only when the workload is low. Otherwise I need absolute silence.
I sit in quiet a lot so I'm not distracted like you mentioned. It made working in an open office awful for me because I HAD to have headphones on with noise playing so I wouldn't hear other people and get distracted by THAT, and I DON'T want to sit there forced to have music on.
But if I'm not doing anything complex, hopping around social media or just relaxing yeah I've probably got 20 different things going on at once. Music, youtube, 350 tabs spread across 3 monitors. Can't sleep without audiobooks/tv on, etc.
I absolutely hate the ultra silence it gives me anxiety.
It is still there for those rare occasions I need it. But I no longer get pulled in.
Now I spend all that time playing Baldur's Gate 3.
The counsellor... well, let's say they have a specific task at hand.
My list of vices: Youtube X Hacker news Telegram “news” channels
Or you can write a userscript / custom CSS to hide thumbnails altogether.
Or you can browse YouTube through RSS feeds (which afaik still work).
I heard MrBeast on a podcast (the flagrant) describing the formula they developed to manufacture `captivating` content, how they make multiple thumbnails and A/B tests which one is more engaging, and all the effort and psychology manipulation that goes behind the scene. It was a huge turn off.
I never watched MrBeast content personally but I've since noticed the same patterns implemented by 'Education' channels like Veritasium who I previously pictured as innocent & informal. They actively hunt and bray on you consuming their content.
I have a watch later playlist that I want to get through but I find myself scrolling on shorts.
I've forced myself to go laptop/desktop-only with most services and have found that I can keep my phone away from my person for most of the day, save for moments where a service requires 2FA.
But I'm not about to throw the baby out with the bathwater.
I hope there IPO sinks to the bottom of the stock market and is delisted.
That's not what they are addicted to.
As someone who used to smoke, I can't believe that anything is as difficult as stopping smoking, but then Heroin Addicts enter the chat. So whereas to me, it seems incredible that people are addicted to content, it doesn't mean that how they feel about said content doesn't constitute a problem and where that lies on the scale for an individual is impossible to quantify from my narrow viewpoint and experience.
That is not a true statement for an addict. What's easy to you may be complicated for an addict. Addiction is not necessarily straightforward.