This is a pretty outdated take considering all of the experience you've referenced is 10+ years old now.
Erlang is some inexplicably sacred cow on HN, among the few other forums who still discuss it. Making sweeping changes is going to be required, to get the adoption that some are seeking...specifically the authors of these kinds of posts. Waiting another couple decades for the killer app to catapult it, will never happen.
What is the reason it's not popular again? My reasoning is not "a bad take", as much as it's my take from over 30 years programming. I would say it's my own twist on common understandings across the west coast of the US.
You probably have your own, equally wrong reasoning. Would be great to hear them.