How do I explain what my prefered "level of abstraction" is and why it is superior to all the others? How can I be convincing with a fuzzy and subjective term "visual noise"? Etc.
That's my point: you shouldn't, because there isn't. Once you hit the Pareto front, there's no superior choice. There are just choices, each of which is better in different situations, and once taken, very expensive to back out of. The problem is being forced to make the choice in advance.
> How can I be convincing with a fuzzy and subjective term "visual noise"?
That's another part of the problem. Different choices may be better for different people. There's no one-size-fits-all here. Which is why, again, it's dumb that we have to make this choice once and for everyone (part of what I mean by "working on single-source-of-truth code").
The way I see it, to stop running in circles on the Pareto front, to move past to more powerful ways of dealing with complexity, we need to make things like "lots of small functions vs. few fat ones" or "exceptions vs. expected" to be subjective, personal, local preferences, not meaningfully different than your editor's color scheme, or syntax highlighting scheme; inlining needs to be as easy as code folding, etc.
I.e. you're talking strategy and architecture, I'm talking not even tactics, but individual minute-to-minute execution.
This is precisely the problem.
The way it should look like is, these trade-offs should be purely local, minute-to-minute editor preferences. Inlining some helpers or removing error types from the code you see, should be no harder than folding a code block or pinning a peeked function definition. Nor should those "changes" have any effect visible to anyone else. You should not take into account any "future readers", because there won't be any - but rather, you should pick a representation you need right this second, and switch to a different one the moment you need that, etc.
But for the major issues like split between "lots of small functions" vs "one big function" even if the IDE could e.g. inline the functions for readability, but that feels a bit risky as it makes it difficult to talk about the code or document a functions' interface if another person is seeing different semantic structure of the code, it's as if they had different names for the same things.
(Of course there is a best way to do it that will optimize the codebase for a function of productivity, reliability and pleasure. The likelihood and the cost of changes are part of that function. Finding and advocating for it is the task of the most experienced, wisest team member. Less experienced team members may (or may not) understand the wisdom of the better decision in time. But this is just my struggle with postmodernism and relativism and besides the point)