I'd be willing to bet that the majority of results you find in that search will be men talking about how much women care about money... of course some women do, but far far from all of them
Certain age usually brings this 'seeing' effortlessly and you actually become annoyed by additional layer of personalities that you see (since you can't escape it anymore facts that a lot of people of both sexes are just badly broken or simply not good people to the core), you just need to grind through enough people/stories around you like any other skill.