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Jerry Weinberg's classic Secrets of Consulting has tons of hard-won wisdom about this kind of thing. "No matter how it looks at first, it's always a people problem." - https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true&que...

He posted once to HN (https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1825352 - but start here: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1813443)

Edit: There's also

Gerald M. Weinberg has died - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17716098 - Aug 2018 (66 comments)

I miss Gerry Weinberg. Used to get lunch with him regularly

He credits a man named Sherbie for the three rules. That man was my grandfather.

The best advice Gerry gave me was when I was in a tough spot in college. “Expectations are fickle things that we work ourselves up over. Reevaluate them regularly, they have expiration dates long before they begin to smell funny.”

That's a long way of saying what I often tell people.

"Disappointment is when expectations don't match reality"

Meaning, that depending on the situation simply reevaluating your expectations can lead to satisfaction.

Reassessing expectations means, I would say in the vast majority of cases, lowering them, not raising them. I would advise, as always depending on the person and the situation, to make peace with disappointment and to have higher expectations, especially of oneself, not of others, that a reasonable person would have.

the generalization of this is: "feelings is the clash between expectations and reality"

Unless it's a DNS problem.

Or caching. Or both.

A people problem, or caching, or an off-by-one error. Or both.

Caching is typically a people problem if you get to the root of it.

Unless the DNS problem was actually a people problem!

Thank you for these links, dang!

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