"I went home, told my wife that I would be deeply ignoring her and our baby for the week, and spent twelve hours a day in the headset for four straight days."
Father of the year right here.
Father of the year right here.
Selfishness? sacrificing for family - both on the fathers side to provide but also on the mothers side to take care of the fort?
That's not selfishness. That's called being a good father. husband. wife. mother.
I know people who spend most of the year away from their family and who are not bad parents. Sometimes sacrifices must be made to make things grow and invest in the future. Don't be so easy to judge.
Self-deprecating humorous self-awareness is also a trifecta of positive signals to those that pick up on those frequencies.
based on everything tim has written that shows extreme self-awareness about his working/productivity style, and the fact that he makes a lot of money for his family by doing occasional multi-day binges of work, i think it's fair to give him the benefit of the doubt
Giving people the benefit of the doubt makes the world a better place.
So you think him not spending time with family isn't the same sacrifice that families around the world make every day in and out isn't a sacrifice?
Why do you think it's not a sacrifice? Because he enjoys his job? because it's "fun" and "entertaining"?
The problem here is that he is making a sacrifice - the sacrifice of giving his time to a career to provide for his family.
Let me ask you an honest question... if he spent that 40 hours in a cubicle and an addition 10 hours commuting to make less... would you consider that not a sacrifice? Of course you'd consider that a sacrifice - because he'd be giving his time to provide for his family.
So in this situation... he's giving his time to provide for his family.
Why does the fact he enjoys it/"it's playing with toys" challenge the fact that he's sacrificing his time to provide for family? Is it the "toy" aspect? Working from home? Jealousy about how lucky he is?
If he had actually flown somewhere would you consider him to be an irresponsible father?
The kids too.
In times of great distress I can imagine a parent being away temporarily being considered a hardship.
Otherwise, it’s good for kids to spend time with different configurations of parent. And grandparents or extended family if they are lucky.
Anyway, I just brush it off as tough boy talk. He did communicate and work it out with his significant other and she agreed. Not in the sense he said I am unavailable for a week good luck with your life see you in a week.
People around the world and throughout history sacrifice for their kids... we should all be so lucky. He's able to sacrifice from the comfort of home... some sacrifice in coal mines or on oil rigs or on long commutes to long days in factories.
Complaining that dad has to work to provide is a first world problem.
I really enjoy programming and find it fun/engaging. It’s still work, because it’s how I earn money.
Other people work as tour guides or travel writers. Do you see what they do as playing around traveling or as work?
Sure, you could make your hobby a job. But if they experiment with a device like this to see if it enhances their work it is kinda like the 80/20 rule at Google. It could turn out productive, inspiring. But I wouldn't want to bet on it. It wouldn't be the main task of his job.
You may not see it as work... but the guy is literally getting paid for it.
No offense but it doesn't matter what you see or what you think you see - what matters is what's really happening.
And what's really happening is this guy has gotten REALLY lucky: He's got a job where he can have "fun/play" doing something that pays his bills. That doesn't make his "sacrifice" anything less because it's enjoyable (sacrificing time with wife/kid(s)). It makes his sacrifice enjoyable but he still has to make the same sacrifice that parents around the world make on the daily.
I guess I'd ask you honestly... do you see professional streamers or gaming streamers as working? Destiny, Vaush, Asmond Gold, pewdiepie, etc? I know streamers that spend 12 hours a day online engaging in content to make money - and a few of them have kid(s). They are having fun and making money while working their asses off to better their lives and, presumably, their families lives.
They aren't slaving in a coal mine or sitting with dead looks in their eyes in a cubicle but they are making money and ends meet. Just because they are lucky (and work their asses off) doesn't mean they aren't also sacrificing.
But I digress. I'm lucky enough to love what I do as well so I think the fact this guy can provide for his family by playing with toy is fucking awesome.
As for the examples you mention, I only know Asmongold (and Pewdiepie from committing suicide). Asmongold is a child in an adult body. But I think that is true for a lot of influencers. I find them overrated but they can consider themselves lucky in their niche. Either way, they're exceptions, not the rule of thumb.
For example, soldiers on deployment or travel sales people, or people who work foe international organizations or migrant farmers… all have to leave home for weeks to months in order to earn money.
Where do you have ANY evidence that his kid is being neglected? We are literally talking about 1 week. 1 freaking week. A long week of over time.
"misogynistic"
lol working with his wife as a team to take care of their kid is misogyny? I'm sorry but you obviously have a different definition. Because there's nothing bad about sacrificing for your family - even if you have fun while doing so.
Just like my question about you having proof of anything bad about this exchange as one half of the couple... what proof do you have of anything nefarious, misogynistic (other than the wording you don't approve of) or being "pussy whipped". I question your motives as your statements show you have your own bias that makes having a real conversation with you questionable.
"exceptions, not the rule of thumb" Correct. They are exceptions because they have fun doing what they do. the vast majority of people don't enjoy what they do. They work to live. Most people have jobs - not careers they love. They make money to provide for those they love (even if that's only themselves).
The rule is people sacrifice for themselves and their family.
The only part of this conversation that's the exception is the fact that this guy gets to play with an over priced toy and gets paid for it. He's still sacrificing (and without proof of neglect or harm to wife/kid - at least no more than any other 9/5 job would be considered).
Nothing you've said challenges my position that he's lucky for doing it but he's still sacrificing for his family. Props to him.