Write a Letter to Your Future Self
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As the years went on, the letters alternated between despair and hope. The letter writer turned into a pothead, then an alcoholic, then an alcoholic pothead who couldn't make art anymore.
Many of the letters described long, meandering walks through New York City through eyes that didn't feel part of reality, in a body that was always outside of the circle.
After years of ache for love, a relationship blossomed, then spoiled; an anticipated marriage never materialized, and then the whole thing collapsed died. The letter writer fell very ill, left the city, then started all over in a small town.
I got my last letter a year ago. That person seems a lot closer to the person who wrote that very first letter. That person makes art again. Spends most of their time in nature. Is back in college studying something entirely new. The pothead and the alcoholic and all the toxic relationships are long gone. The slate feels washed clean.
There is a sense of innocence returned. Joy, excitement, hope for the future. Gratitude for the all wisdom accumulated between that first letter and the most recent.
Through the project, I actually discovered two things. First, I estimated a rate of progress that exceeds the real possible magnitude of accomplishment by about two lifetimes. Second, that the storylines I want in my life and the opinions I have about them are stable across time, even if they are dormant for many years in a row. Whether this is the effect of personality or an ability to maintain memory beyond the capacity of attention I don’t know. But then again, maybe those are both the same thing.
I also vastly underestimated the amount of time and energy it would take to excel in certain things (for example, I wanted to compose and play music, excel at math and physics, write fiction books, play tennis, all at professional levels) and overestimated the difficulty of a few others (namely escaping poverty/becoming wealthy). Though, I suppose this may be the consequence of work being such a major timesink in one's life and my having the fortune of various opportunities in my life.
Similarly, my desired storylines and opinions have all been roughly the same since then. There have been occasions where they shifted, but then returned as if to equilibrium after a brief amount of time. As someone who views themself as having a terrible memory, I suspect it may have less to do with memory and more to do with some stable characteristic with emergent qualities. To extend the equilibrium analogy - a spring doesn't need to "remember" its equilibrium position to reach it - after experiencing friction for enough time, it'll reach it again.
It's nice being able to see a reflection of my past self though. I think I'll try to keep a diary again.
Scrivener (no affiliation) is a word processing SW for writers. So I am writing the book of my life (chapters, etc.)(imagine OneNote enhanced for writing books).
You can create a 2030-01-01 Chapter (folder) and drop notes into that about changing your investment risk, etc. I guess you could leave a note to your own Calendar, but when I use Scrivener I flow better - I guess it's the UI that makes the difference.
I’ll check out Scrivener. I haven’t revisited my voice notes in a while but I would probably use some sort of LLM to decode them into text to make them easier to search.
You inspired me to dig into the vault.
Thank you!
I would say don't do it young and naïve, it's just depressing, except that I am now at least mature enough to realise one's probably always too young and naïve to write like that to the older self. What we really want is to hear from them isn't it, but writing's no substitute at all.
At the end of all of my reading even though my younger selves couldn't hear it I whispered to all of them: "You turned out okay little one. Rest."
Best use I’ve found is for when I have a huge decision to make. I’ll email myself at some time after the decision must be made; right when I might be having regrets. I explain to my future self how hard it is to decide right now and why the correct choice isn’t clear. Usually with some encouragement of “I hope you know we made the best choice we could”
Of course, I also send some occasionally on birthdays or when I’ve just give through something dramatic — a reminder to future me to remember.
Google (gmail) has a send later option which I use all the time as a reminder for all kinds of things. It's been 100% reliable. I actually have an email setup to be delivered 16dec2024. I use it for all kinds of medium/long-term (often mundane) reminders.
It's easy.
Just open up your calendar app to a date like 5 years from now and type away.
This derisks the possibility that the "future you service" goes under, taking your cherished letters with it.
I have a few that go back to 1999. It's always a trip to go back and reread them.
Can we deeply trust the concept of our future self as being equivalent and worthwhile of replacing our present? Do we treat that future self almost like a child of our own?
I do not think I would have started this practice without knowing this about myself.
I do wish I made more of an effort to leave these notes. I have in my archive chat logs from various messaging services and there is contextual headspace which clearly has changed over the years without me really knowing it. For example: I had a conversation back in 2006 where it sounded like I thought very positively of Apple as a company. I have no recollection of thinking positively of Apple back then, and certainly not since.
Gmail might not exist or be replaced, text files might suffer corruption, cloud hosting could go off line or the database could die or a physical letter can be lost or destroyed.
Really need to use a multitude of options to ensure delivery in the future.
I’d say it replaces it with a different set of risks (new phone, cloud service goes under, you start using a new account, etc). It’s a hard problem to solve over long time periods.
I recently came across an email I'd sent to myself a decade ago. It was a serendipitous find and could've easily been lost for all time among the 100K emails floating around. But the process of writing it is worth it, and the reading of it some time later can be deeply rewarding.
Apparently, this service has survived since 2003. I hope it will continue to exist decades from now.
Per their footer:
> FutureMe™ brought to you by Memories Group Limited © 2002 - 2024.
> Yup - we've been sending letters to the future for about 22 years now
If you write to someone in the city, someone will deliver your letter/card. If you write to someone outside the city, they will pop it in USPS in Gerlach. If you write to someone no longer living, they'll deliver it to the temple. If you write to your future self, someday, someone may put it in USPS.
I wonder though - How is this different than journaling? Doesn't a written record from the past you can refer back to in the future accomplish the same goal?
Also I wish you the best and hope your outlook on life gets more positive.
What did I glean from it all? I don't know. It wasn't as mindblowing as I had hoped, frankly. Mostly I was struck by the sad reality that I had failed to predict what would be interesting to my future self. It reminded me of how, as a teenager, I had filled many pages of my journal talking about an MMORPG I was addicted to, rather than how I felt towards my siblings, or my spiritual beliefs, or a funny joke I heard at school, etc. Another sad irony was that the older I got, the more I wrote -- but when I read the letters, the more recent they were, the less interested I was in them. I wanted to read thousands of words written by my 15-year-old self, but all I got was a few sentences. Oh well. Maybe those longer passages will be interesting to 40-year-old me.
https://iaap-journals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.11...
It was fascinating when I started doing it because before it, I didn't really think about future me reading past entries. So it has shaped how I journal, and it has also made me journal more often, because I don't like the days where there's no past entries to read.
Making a plan to make each month count is something I thought about recently. Something to remember each month by. It's a big enough chunk that you could for example take a trip somewhere, lose 10 lbs, or learn a new skill.
It's a bit of a change of perspective to think of your life in terms of months.
Kind of like not to think of the world as countries, but inter connected cities.
Future Me Hates Me, by The Beths
Also, their Cron scheduler must be working its ass off. God knows how many are waiting to be sent out.
It's a fun creative thinking exercise.
You can 'cheat' a bit by thinking of ways of sending a message such that ~everyone on earth would get it at the delivery time, including the intended target. But personalizing the delivery (thus adding privacy) makes the problem far, far more difficult.
I do similar with just THOUGHTS. I send my future self a thought, often a question, and I get the answer albeit vague and difficult to decipher. Then when that time eventually comes, I answer my past self because at that moment I am receiving the past question. I know this sounds weird but that's fine. I'm not able to get any answers past ~10 years from now which is kind of unsettling, but I guess we can't live forever.
A while of doing this has shaped my thinking generally. The tone moves along the serious-not-serious spectrum. I can speculate wildly and grandiosely about my plans and ideas from a just joshing or just in case perspective, and then reconsider them seriously.
Hello everyone!
Then the next year rolls around and I compare the current year to the previous year, see if I am hitting my goals & trending in the right direction. Helps me hold myself accountable.
This coupled with my daily journal entries offers an interesting reflective process around the holiday season :)
Do you just mark the envelope with a year and keep your hands off? Is there a service the mail office offers?
At least that's why I've never used this service and never will, even though I think it would be worthwhile.
I read the letter some years ago and I came a long way, financially and personally.
There are less-privacy-invading alternatives - both paid and gratis - which you should consider. I'd particularly suggest trying options that are not based in the US, the UK or Canada.
(The harder part is avoiding conversing with people who use GMail, but the more of us leave it, the more that can be realized.)
I don't really care though. None of what you've mentioned, even if true, would stop me from using the product, mostly because of the convenience and extremely high switching-cost.
Also the following day ( https://www.gocomics.com/calvinandhobbes/2015/04/23 )
I know everything looks bleak now but you must persist. You're much closer to your goal than I ever was.
Sincerely,
Your past self
What is less certain is: will the service still work and will the email pass the spam filters?