You keep pointing to the object-relational mismatch, which, while a thing, has no more to do with OOP than it does functional programming. It pertains to object-based programming. That is something else entirely.
Understandably, those who don't understand OOP often confuse OOP with object-based programming. Is that the problem here? Just that you don't understand OOP?
Fair that fluidity of language means that anyone can define OOP as they wish, and if they want to define OOP to be equivalent to OBP, good for them. They wouldn't be the first. And if we were discussing this topic in a vacuum we could set out a proclamation that defines OOP to be equal to OBP. However, OOP was already and explicitly defined by the article that setup the context for the following discussion, and the definition used is Kay's – the one that has nothing to do with objects. Other definitions for OOP would be clearly off-topic.
Perhaps it is that you are purposefully trying to go off-topic? Indeed, this thread started because someone (not me!) questioned exactly that.
If it is simply that you don't know how to clarify what you mean, why not just say so?