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It would be great if you can share few examples of your truth/unconventional measures. There are a lot of instances where people would use the phrase "brutally honest" and are more brutal than honest. Books on communication would say "How you say it" matters a lot more than "What you say".

- “Honesty without compassion is cruelty”

Is it the "Truth" part that is hurting and not the compassion/lack of it on display aka the delivery?

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It is not the delivery, because I was talking mainly about myself.

What I was referring to, was taking actions inspired by being true to myself. For example, quitting the job I disliked, instead of trying to fit in with the rest.

Cutting connections with family members I disliked their affect on me.

This made me feel more lonely.

I can not talk about your family members as you would have the best context. Only out of curiosity, have you already explored techniques from books like Crucial Conversations or consulted a therapist before cutting connections?

As far as the job is concerned quitting the one you dislike is only 10% of the work, finding the one you like is the 90% of it. I am sure that once you find the one you like you will be far more fulfilled.

Interesting. I think I didn’t explained myself very well.

I feel lonely, but I’m not depressed/anxious about it. I’m quite happy really, although this disturbs me, as to why I opened this thread.

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