Much, much easier said than done.
I have both said and done. It's better for you than integrating the trauma into your personality and by extension your life.
I can tell you mean well, but there’s an asterisk to your advice your commenters seem to point out. Your advice might require years and finding a good therapist or purpose for some. Doesn’t mean it’s not worth it.
Or it may require taking the steps yourself right now because someone has helped you realise it.
Stop trying to protect people from helping themselves. If people don't want to help themselves they are free to.
Sounds like all of you are enabling the self-destruction of the above comment. That's something even I'm offended by.
I intend to leave this conversation here, though I will read and consider any response you might have even if I’m not responding to it.
This conversation can be left wherever you want. Many people here are clearly in no hurry to help the above comment author.
I feel sorry for all of you and for the people who have been hurt who are left in their state of hurt because no one wants to actually help them help themselves.
You were not wrong here and to be honest 9 hours later I feel ashamed to have made the original comment and no disrespect to the author obviously.
I’ve been having a few bad days lately and what the author and his family are going through took me back to a time when I thought could relate not as the author but someone as a family member who was affected.
I should have been more empathetic rather than making the comment about me (although I was trying not to).
I tend to not do this as therapy is working for me mostly, but times like these it brings back emotions that you cannot control.
No one cares if you comment about yourself. People support those that talk about themselves but apparently they support people harming themselves like you continue to do.
It makes me ashamed to think that you're being guided by these absolutely abhorrent people in this thread. You can help yourself. Don't let them stop you.
It's highly analogous to a deeply damaging physical wound. It is part of you now, whether you want it to be or not. You can't undo it, and denying the reality of it won't actually help you live a healthy life without it.
You can't undo it, but you can live with it and not let it fester.
No one is talking about denial. My comments mention acceptance...
The core muscles have to rebalance to compensate for the missing weight. The neural pathways have to change in realization that, for example, instinctively trying to move that arm to catch a fall won't work anymore. The whole body has to relearn how to function now that it's different, now that the traumatic thing has happened.
This is integrating. Trying to function the way it did before actually prolongs the suffering. Only healing and integration is the path forward.
It ain't rocket science buddy.
Sounds like you need to try read my parent comments again.
Anyway, I hope this is hope this is a productive learning experience.
It has been a learning experience. I learnt that there are people who really hate others improving their life to the point where they claim that help is a form of personal attack. I am just so glad that I didn't get enabled by people like those in this comment thread when I deal with my own trauma.