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> I don't think it is really necessary to do a formal "program", if you can work through all the big topics effectively together.

In theory, yes. But it's surprising how little het. cis couples talk about important stuff before getting married. Like, if/how many many, if they wanna live close to parents or move to another country, etc

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> But it's surprising how little het. cis c

Is that true? Anecdotally it doesn't seem to be from my circles of friends. At least those I know well enough for that sort of thing to have come up in conversation...

Do you know of any research in the area suggesting it is uncommon?

I definitely suspect what you say correlates to people who get married young, in my experience.

I'd have associated it with youth more than whether people are het / cis certainly. The "U-Haul Lesbian" cliche isn't about cishet folks, but you can bet the hypothetical "Lesbian on a second date" in the joke is not a 49 year old with kids from a previous marriage.

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