GitHub themselves don't seem to provide any mechanism to make runners ephemeral. It looks like all they allow you to do is flag a runner as ephemeral, meaning it will be de-registered once a job is completed - you need to write your own tooling to wipe it yourself (either via starting a whole new runner in a new environment and registering that or wiping the existing runner and re-registering it).

https://docs.github.com/en/actions/hosting-your-own-runners/...