> character development
pretty much sums it up; anything that does not break you, will make you stronger.
ever chewed on your food, breathing thru the nose, while cleaning diarrhea diapers and being screamed at? your parents did.
pretty much sums it up; anything that does not break you, will make you stronger.
ever chewed on your food, breathing thru the nose, while cleaning diarrhea diapers and being screamed at? your parents did.
Not even remotely true. Plenty of people have to spend years in therapy to undo their parent's trauma.
Let's put it another way, do you think a rape victim in college will have better outcomes than someone who is not raped in college?
I think in your cases it "broke" them
Of course things either break you or make you stronger. The unexpected outcome would be for to leave you exactly the way you were before.
It's a positive dismissal.
It makes people weaker.
not sure about the rape analogy thou
It is reflective of a society that sees emotions that don't feel productive as "bad" and to make excuses or falsely positive reasons to dismiss them.
The classic example is the British attitude of the "stiff upper lip".
These narratives result in lower happiness, compassion and generally poorer mental health.
Don't let a society that encoded outdated views on emotional health dictate that you shouldn't freely allow emotions to complete their cycle and be expressed.
I truly cant express how bad perpetuating this kind of thinking is on an individual and societal level.
The best counterexample is freezing damage. Each time makes you weaker.
I believe both e.g. participating in war or being a victim of a crime makes you mentally weaker.
Many veterans seems to be the brink of collapse and those people were probably better suited mentally than the average man for ensuring war since they self selected for it? Or maybe less naive people would fare better?
then again it can hardly be denied that a reoccurrence is seldomly an equally devastating experience
Sometimes memories are great merely for the fact that they're the past ;)