Incels are real and they are extremist. But in the dating game and in the world of relationships things are fundamentally unequal. Women have many many advantages and they have things a lot easier in many cases. This is real and even hinting at this gets you labeled as an incel. The current status quo of what people assume to be true as implied in the article is wrong. Incels have noticed this and taken it to the extreme.
The problem is most people really buy into this idealistic narrative of relationships and these descriptions that are flat out wrong.
Here's a common example and this will actually trigger most people because it's so unconventional:
When it comes to relationships men are the more romantic and emotional sex while women are the more logical and practical sex.
Think about it. Men do all these irrational things that are "romantic" in the form of gifts and tribute and they offer all this to a woman almost unconditionally. The women on the other hand makes a practical choice. She chooses the man based off a multitude of attributes including income which is highly, highly practical and logical.
For men, did the income of a woman ever matter? Does her job even really matter? It's illogical not to factor that in as it influenced the relationship. But as all men know, income and occupation and even status isn't even part of the criteria. Men are illogical when it comes to relationships.
Also think about it. If a man loses his job or becomes in capable of supporting a family. What does a woman with options do? She will leave. Her relationship with a man is conditioned on practicality. If It is practical for her to leave most women will. What if a woman becomes unemployed and unable to support the family? No problem there. Because the man loves her romantically, not practically.
Any man reading this will know what I'm saying is true. But this goes against the modern narrative. You can get attacked and labeled for saying such a thing. It sounds bad but it is what it is. It's just the way things are.
Overall what I'm trying to say here is that the word incel has been weaponized and over used. Incels do exist. But the worst thing that's happening here is not the concept of an incel. The status quo of what most men and women understand about male or female behavior is just fundamentally wrong and way too idealistic. There are dark truths here that we don't want to face and a lot of people who throw around the word "incel" are such people who are afraid.
This is reality: Men and women are not equal. They are different physically, mentally, intellectually, emotionally and psychologically and many of these differences are biological in nature. This unequality is not fair and balanced either... there's no black magic that says for every male weakness there's a female strength and counterpart to make up for it or vice versa. There are real reasons why there are more men in tech than women other than "oppression" and If you can't accept this and if you think this is an "incel" mentality, then I'm sorry to say you're not in touch with reality.