I keep seeing this complaint but I have never reproduced it locally. VSCode runs at a buttery smooth 120hz on my MBP. What are you doing that causes such poor performance?
VSCode with no extensions is very fast and light. VSCode with 30 extensions you've accumulated? Not so much.
I think that's why you see such conflicting experiences - people have different extensions.
Actually I think Rust analyser had a "smart enter" feature that worked in a similar way and was similarly slow.
Basically if an extension overrides typing then it's going to be slow.
I absolutely love vscode and think all of the people complaining about it being sluggish are ridiculous, but the cpp extensions really are genuinely annoying.