> As for access point capability, that should really be segmented, and any off the shelf Ruckus, Aruba, Unifi etc. will always outperform the drivers available to OpenWRT. I'm a staunch advocate of an eBay ruckus 510 or 610, which will be very little in terms of cost and also your best home access point ever.
This. Your comments about open source are relevant but IMO these days with work from home, tons of devices, larger/more well constructed homes, increased traffic for anything/everything, etc managed APs are just the way to go.
I'm a big advocate of OpenWRT but many years ago I got sick of fiddling with basic connectivity on a regular basis and dropped a few hundred dollars on a standard Unifi setup. I haven't touched or thought of my "pipes" since - to me there's nothing worse than being deep flow into a project and then having to fiddle with some router or access point because it's being flaky, dropping packets, negotiating slower link speeds, etc. It's much better than factory firmware in most cases but that's a pretty low bar.
Ubiquiti has had some controversies with data access, cloud stuff, etc but I just can't be bothered to care. For $100 x $NUM APs and a docker container to run the controller it just works.
Unifi has been truly game changing for me in terms of making wifi ethernet level reliable, predictable, and consistent - everywhere without needing to take on yet another level of deep expertise in Wifi.