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> I have had situations where, even after a few meetings where I felt I was just “talking about how things are” the other person left HATING me.

If you mean this in a way where your saying hard truths or telling it like it is, then yeah, its annoying to listen to. Especially without it being asked for.

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I feel that in corporate it is generally understood you are to play out a role given your social rank.

If you are X, you are not allowed to ask about Y topic etc.

People with Aspergers do not perceive these boundaries and open topics they are not supposed to or are “above their pay grade.”

Status blindness and career limiting.

To be fair, this could also be said about everyday life too, which is also why folks with Aspergers (like myself) tend to struggle. Social norms seem to basically down to "don't speak out unless absolutely necessary, especially not against authority figures"

Easy and logical for more tribalistic folks that live in terror of becoming outcasts, but not remotely reasonable for people who don't/can't live in this restrictive setup.

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