IMO, your response does more damage to you than trying to explain it away. Doesnt matter if the guy is not paying you or not. In fact, your privacy policy says you wont do this and you just did.
I am not sure whats worse when you get hosted with you:
Is it when they disconnect you for having a incoming attack, or the public post afterwards where they air your dirty laundry?
Wow, its even worse on twitter:
https://twitter.com/#!/bradleyktaylor/status/194937146153508...