I'm wondering how it became the norm the your own bank requires to know everything about you and you are not allowed to say no any more. It doesn't feel good. :)
Actually I feel violated..
Don't be angry at your bank. Be angry at your politicians. They pass the laws. The banks (just like everyone else) simply obey the laws. No bank wants to have the cost of a KYC and AML (and it is EXPENSIVE)(consider also the penalties for going over or under on these tasks).
In the same spirit, don't blame your judges. They work with the laws passed on the various parliaments (and/or EU Regulations)
It's not personal, it's algorithmic. Switching banks is not going to solve this for you, since every bank that interacts with the economy you live in will have to interact with these laws.
Some are more of a pain about it than others although. Like venmo in the USA temp freezes your account if you put "iranian food" and insists you put descriptions for your transactions, while other p2p cash transfer services in the usa do not insist on transaction descriptions for example.
AML is the least effective policy out there, costing more than it recovers by a large amount and causing a lot of collateral damage to the poor, but there is an entire industry funded by it so thus it continues. https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/25741292.2020.1...