In the sense that a market is made up of buyers and sellers, and the sellers have decided to offer no other option yes.
I think the issue is more of the design and ownership of these things. No one wants an update bricking their car. I doubt a lot of people here would object to a discrete subsystem where you could poll charge status, turn on heating etc.
Whatever your line is in the sand for tech integration, you have many great options from before that point.
Would you also propose a calculator as a valid alternative to a locked down tablet/phone/pc that you can't install your own software on?
People want modern cars, modern TVs and modern computers. They don't want a steam engine. But modern doesn't mean "crap that the manufacturer can brick remotely".