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It's real. I remember bracing myself every time I got someone's number off a dating app for the inevitable comment about my "green bubble". These are people in their 20s in NYC. And (for most people), a rant about ecosystem lock-in and being able to do what I want with my hardware etc wouldn't exactly make me come off as more attractive...

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Not to invalidate your frustration, but if someone rejected me based on the colour of my chat bubble in a messaging app, that would be decisively unattractive to me.

I have the confidence to feel that now, but dating apps imbue a sense of helplessness in users like my past self, who would get maybe 10-20 matches total, ever, most of whom wouldn't even reply. So perhaps my experience speaks more to the psychological game of dating apps than anything about bubbles and phones.

And, to be fair, they didn't reject me per se, they would make slightly judgmental comments or observations. It just felt like it knocked me down a peg in their eyes and made it all the more difficult to make a real connection.

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