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> The problem is that sometimes humility and compassion are not what's needed. Sometimes a person needs a kick in the pants. A close friend willing to tell you to stop impulse buying furniture, or get a fucking job, or get off your ass and work out.

> The tricky part is knowing when which tactic is called for.

That was my original comment. I'm not sure when it got twisted into that straw man, but it seems like we agree.

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>an anonymous stranger on the internet, or a politician proselytizing for their punative economic policies is _not_ that type of friend

You replied to the above with

>It may not be a much better approach than pandering and patronizing their feelings, but it's probably at least a little bit better.

It's not better. That's all. If you missed that and were never talking about unsolicited advice from strangers, then I'm sure we agree.

Fair. I think I got confused by the split thread. Although, I stand by my response there. They're both crappy ways to respond, but I have a particular repulsion for patronizing, cloying false empathy that contributes to the ubiquitous feeling of victimhood that is natural to human beings but seems to be supercharged in the modern era.

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