I have always had trouble reconciling the "tidal stresses rip everything apart" with the idea that "everything hits the center in finite time, thus infinite density and singularity".
I mean, how can both be true?
My understanding is that tidal forces are due to the gravity gradient being more and more severe as you near the center. That is, objects just a little bit closer to the center than you will be pulled more, and hence will accelerate towards the center faster than you are being accelerated (at that moment). Relatively speaking, they are moving away from you. Eventually the gradient is so severe even your atoms even get ripped apart. Everything accelerates at faster and faster speeds.
This would imply that the "space" between matter increases indefinitely as you approach the center, right?
Also, does this also apply to photons in say a light ray? Do the photons nearer the center pull away from the photons further out? If not, why not? And if so, then how can this be possible if all photons travel at same speed C? Is it that space is expanding inside the event horizon, faster than the speed of light?
So anyhow, tidal forces seem to imply everything getting further and further apart from each other as you near the center.
But the idea of a singularity is that "everything is in a single point of infinite density".
So how can matter be getting ripped apart at the same time it's getting squooshed together?
Also, wouldn't this apply to the original star that's collapsing? Meaning the particles inside the star are getting ripped apart as the black hole forms and they're drawn toward the center at faster and faster speeds. Is it possible that the particles in the star are also ripped apart by tidal forces, never reaching each other?
I guess my question is, what forces the particles back together again? There must be deceleration involved, right?
I feel like I'm missing something important.