> Giving my Apple ID to a third-party seems insane
That's fair. You'd be happy to learn that literally no one is forcing you to hand over your Apple ID to Beeper. Your approach is very good for your account safety, but you don't need to keep other people safe from themselves.
Do you have similar concerns when people use non-Google-approved email clients to use Gmail, or alternative YouTube clients, or Signal/Telegram forks?
Perhaps you think HN should ban alternative clients or weird web browsers too. Too bad a lot of people think interoperating clients are important or we would be left with the Web Integrity crap to "keep us safe".