Okay, sure, I dont see these aspects of the PRC the same way you do.
Taiwan hasn't always been the little democracy victim. They were quite totalitarian until like a couple decades ago. They have a competing claim to the shape of China that makes a mockery of the entire nation state concept. Its fun to imagine a democracy version of China, but a lot of the border disputes would be the same, the status of tibet would still be the same, and so on. Its the same people, they just lost. Its very similar to the story of the Hunger Games and realizing the liberated 13th district was the same as the status quo. Once we get stateside semiconductors this stops being our problem.
Next, debt-traps. The IMF and World bank do the same, I cant create a separate higher standard for China. These approaches are far superior to colonialism by force, which is an inferior model that the west/US also does. The US’ colonialism currently undermines its own national security by its approach to the middle east. China’s approach completely exempts it from Jihad and allows it trade and growth. Sorry, cant take the US perspective on this one.
Totalitarian norms: I disagree about China’s expansionist ambitions. I think this is once again projection from the west. China’s norm extension occurs when interacting with China, so if you want movies there you have to change the movies, and they monitor their citizens and students around the world. Their business, I wouldnt want to grow up in that environment but its their business.
But everything you wrote reads like projection. Its not just about how hypocritical the west is, our main disagreement is in the scope of China’s political aims. I think culturally they are quite contained, they want a unified China and enhanced trade, thats it. This will be at the expense of Taiwan and fishing zones, and thats it. Countries might even do trade in their currency, omg oh noes.