You're not alone. I didn't even bother trying BG3 because of the turn-based combat. I'm sorry, but in my opinion turn-based combat has no place in a AAA game, aside from maybe a mini-game. It's just lame.
I don't think the pseudo-RT pause-unpause gameplay of BG2 would show up in AAA either.
I do hope this combat mechanic becomes more widespread, the added tactical depth here really beats the usual RTS hassle. Tabletop D&D is turn based too so it was very puzzling why the old BGs and Neverwinter Nights didn't do it this proper way.
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