Do you normally solve interpersonal conflicts in your life with physical violence?
If the answer is no: why do you think it's appropriate to do so when dealing with children?
(If the answer is yes, then consider anger management classes, I guess)
If the answer is no: why do you think it's appropriate to do so when dealing with children?
(If the answer is yes, then consider anger management classes, I guess)
The reason why corporal punishment isn't used privately man to man is because we've delegated that to government, who happily sends men with guns to drag people violently in for reform. Spanking a child before they get to that point would be a favor.
And when you say "drag people violently in" I feel like very different definitions of "violence" are getting conflated here. Forcibly moving a child is needed sometimes, and is not corporal punishment.
There are tons of situations where violence is appropriate for interpersonal conflict, usually when someone won't listen to reason.
If I went into your house, ignored what you were saying, and then started smashing things or molesting your children, would you just sit there and protest politely?
The earlier poster was arguing that corporal punishment is never appropriate. When they said "better alternatives than violence", they were speaking in the context of punishment.
A scenario about an urgent intervention can't prove them wrong, because it's not related to what they were saying.
> Doubly so when they include a bunch of condescension about how anyone who thinks violence has a place should seek therapy.
Are you actually reading their comments, or are you too busy being righteously mad at them?
They didn't ask if you think violence "has a place". They asked if it's what normally happens for your interpersonal conflicts.
Those two ideas are not at all close.
>They didn't ask if you think violence "has a place". They asked if it's what normally happens for your interpersonal conflicts. Those two ideas are not at all close.
I think it was an intentionally loaded and insulting question. yeah, im sure the poster normally resorts to violence interpersonal conflicts when they cant agree on a move with their partner.
Plus, it is just a crappy argument. The parent wasn't arguing that corporal punishment should normally be the tool to resolve issues, so it is a faulty comparison.
This does not prove that violence is sometimes necessary as a punishment. Punishments are very different from urgent situations.
You very much should be drawing a distinction.