He doesn’t even say “I’m hangry, you incompetent giant”. He demands to be held in arms, he punches, bites and slaps my face. He did this for the first time when he was around 3 months old.
Patience is learnt through many years, specially when the belly is full.
Hangry people can turn violent, like most restaurant workers know.
As “the whole-brained child” book states, children can not be reasonable when they are in a tantrum
Are you supposed to grow out of that? I’m 51 and I still notice this about myself at times!
(Only half joking here. It is amazing how hard it can be to snap out of a “sulky mood” after some type of frustration or disappointment, even when you’re aware of it and that it’s doing more harm than good).
Open world problems are difficult to define, even the word 'properly' you use has a vast amount of interpretability as to what you believe the 'proper' outcome should be.
That doesn't mean my toddler wouldn't prefer ice cream over whatever is for dinner, though.
I only mention it because, as any parent knows, infants are effectively small finite state machines, and you can deal with their crying even half-awake, if you go through a mental checklist. But you'd better not miss a state to check :).
So yeah, good fucking luck if that happens. You'll have to feed on a schedule, change regularly and check even more regularly, guess appropriate temperature etc because the baby will be screaming bloody murder if awake no matter what.
My son during teething was hungry a lot. He was absolutely unwilling to eat for hours till we found whichever thing he was going to tolerate each time (since he's stopped teething for now he's gotten a lot better about it, but you still have to offer food since he doesn't always recognise he is getting hungry).
It goes without saying that children exaggerate, eg crying over spilt milk. To repudiate children's complaints seems cruelly unnecessary.
And a year of mandatory evaluation and treatment at a psycologist for various baggage, complexes and plain stupidity that will manifest when raising a child.
Under capitalism, we are not free unless we draw a wage, and women have learned there are no wages for housework.
Lots of people just can't afford to stay home and capitalism makes it hard enough to rejoin the workforce after 3 years, let alone advance your career. A societal advance in this regard would also be needed imo
What society really wants is to incentivize good parents to have kids, but that is nowhere near possible to measure and implement.
Paid parental leave up until at least breastfeeding is done is a no brainer.
Childhood education is a mechanism that reproduces the existing social order, by transmitting the dominant culture—shared outlook, beliefs, knowledge, and skills which influence one’s educational and occupational opportunities—and legitimizing the inequalities that result from it.
Parents are training their children on employers behalf—to the child's detriment—when they, for example, encourage their children to adopt the dominant language, accent, dress code, manners, hobbies, and tastes. (This is especially true of extrametropolitan families.) Likewise, when parents limit their children’s exposure to their own culture and language (even only as an opportunity cost), they are complicit in reproducing the dominant cultural superstructure which principally benefits the dominant economic institutions and only incidentally benefits the workers these children go into—if at all.
Parents who cook, clean, and care for their children are providing essential services that enable their children to grow up healthy, educated, and productive. These services have a monetary value. Parents are owed wages from the employers who hire their children in the future and profit from their skills and abilities. Since we can't predict the future to track individual employers down, we might implement a form of insurance which would wring compensation from the private sector en mass.
Related modern heresies: https://www.secretorum.life/p/20-modern-heresies?s=w
Culturally we need to make it much easier for women to leave and re-enter the workforce and to also work part time.