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She was also a poor orphan who took to writing to have fund to live, so a marriage proposal from someone with similar interests - they even wrote books together - and they apparently lived quite happily until he died from cancer 14 years later.

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It's an unremarkable age gap by Victorian standards. Men above working class status typically waited until they could support a family before marrying, and women typically married young (16-21 was common among the nobility: at 22 an unmarried woman was all but washed-up). Death in childbirth was sky-high by modern standards, and older husbands died of diseases which today would be survivable, so the average duration of a marriage was much the same as it is today -- about 12 years -- even though divorce was difficult hence rare.

(Victorian mores may seem alien to modern eyes because they arose from medical and social constraints we're no longer subject to.)

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